Take Kobe out of it. The Kobe thread had turned in a weird way. Here's my take: Forcible rape: Anyone who uses superior strength to have 'their way.' Date rape: When a participant in any sex act has said, "No" and the other forces compliance. For it to be 'rape' there must be 'force'. Marital rape: When a partner forces the other in any act against his/her will. I've always had a problem with this. How does one force a guy? If that is impossible, then I guess marital rape is regular rape, which is very different than date rape.