True Refuge

[Billy_Kinetta]

I am not self-analytical in that way. Cogito ergo sum. I am content within my ambitions.

You dont wonder what makes you tick?

I know what makes me tick.

How do you know that if you are not self analytical?

I am self-aware. No navel-gazing is necessary.

 

[Unkotare]

I used to love fishing, but when I realized I didn't enjoy killing I saw what truly enjoyed was being near the water, being quiet, gazing with soft eyes.

So, you love pot and drowning

 

[Tilly]

Refuge. The meaning to me is "a safe place". What is your fall back position of coming home to yourself that keeps you on an even keel and prevents you being rattled, or allows you to recover when you're rattled?

For me, refuge is coming back repeatedly to a state of mind that is reliable. A place that is a secure, inspiring security, or sanctuary inside oneself that helps you self-regulate.

What are the memories, experiences or practices you do that help you come back to yourself, that are a true refuge for you.

Hmmmm. Strange that you need to consciously do so much 'self regulating'?

 

[Dhara]

This is a lovely article by Tara Brach who wrote Radical Acceptance.

http://palousemindfulness.com/docs/RAIN-article.pdf

 

[Dhara]

Refuge is a safe place. When you're surrounded by loved ones, for example. Nothing defeats a harm doer more than enjoying your life fully.

 

[Tilly]

Who are all these 'harm doers'? Is your life that beset by them?

 

[Dhara]

Are you talking to me, Tilly? I thought you'd rather hang out in the Flame Zone.

No harm doers there, LOL.

 

[Dhara]

The 6th-century Buddhist master Shantideva suggested that by staying present “with little cares, we train ourselves to work with great adversity.”

 

[Tilly]

Are you talking to me, Tilly? I thought you'd rather hang out in the Flame Zone.

No harm doers there, LOL.

I hang out on several forums. If you don't like the flame zone don't go there.

 

[Dhara]

Yes, I'm steering of the Flame Zone. I don't know you, Tilly. NIce to meet you.

 

[Dhara]

I want to make my brain like Velcro for the good stuff of daily life.

 

[Dhara]

What is your "safe place" that you can go to?

For me, it's the dharma.

 

[aaronleland]

For me it's the Flame Zone.

 

[Dhara]

For me it's the Flame Zone.

That's very different between you and me. This is my safe place. Discussing religion, human development, parenting, lifestyles, etc.

 

[Dhara]

Even though many people practice Buddhist meditation, what differentiates a Buddhist from a non-Buddhist are the Refuge vows. Taking refuge in the Buddha, the Dharma and the Sangha.

 

[Carla_Danger]

I can't meditate to save my life. I get all sorts of weird stuff going through my head, including grocery lists.

 

[Dhara]

I can't meditate to save my life. I get all sorts of weird stuff going through my head, including grocery lists.

That is meditation. YOU are aware of what's in your mind.

 

[aaronleland]

I can't meditate to save my life. I get all sorts of weird stuff going through my head, including grocery lists.

And midget porn. Or is that just me?

 

[Dhara]

That's what's going on in your head, Aaron. And you know that? That's meditation. Now watch awareness itself.

 

[aaronleland]

For me it's the Flame Zone.

That's very different between you and me. This is my safe place. Discussing religion, human development, parenting, lifestyles, etc.

I love making people laugh. It makes me feel good.