Subtle Homophobia

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    If you want to get into a more nuanced conversation about what it's like for some of us who are gay or lesbina have a recent experience to report.
     
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    ... So, what happened?
     
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    ok?
     
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    i dont..i live in a moderately welcoming area..i work with gay men and women...i got no problems with any of them...matter of fact we are trying to set up jamie with someone..but alas all we can find are baby dykes...i am bi...one of my closer friends is bi...

    what every floats your boat as long as everyone is....say it with me...a consenting adult
     
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    but i have observed gay men catch a lot more hell than gay women...you would think in the mtns there would be hate but its kinda of a live and let live area...i work at a redneck beer store and we have several gay customers as well as a transexual...
     
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    I had a misunderstanding with someone who I thought was becoming a friend. The misunderstanding arose in a chatroom. The individual threw out the 'gay card' as a way to distance me and hurt me. Previously, she had pretended we were friends with a lot in common. Now she's saying I made up being with my partner for 24 years--that I don't even have a partner!

    Why is it that some straight women will assume you're hitting on them if they're getting closer to a lesbian? I was trying to clear up the misunderstanding and now this yoyo thinks I'm doing so because I have a romantic interest in her! I wouldn't be getting that kind of bs if I were a straight woman. It's irritating. It's prejudice.
     
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    ahh i am sorry for that sky...but you cant take everything to heart....easier to say than do.
     
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    You know......I'm most definitely straight, but I've had many friends of mine who were gay and lesbian.

    Personally? I prefer the gays and lesbians over the straights. Why? Simple.....I've never seen a pushy gay dude. I've had several proposition me over the years, but, whenever I said no, they went on about their business.

    Gays are also generally more intelligent than straights.

    When I was in Norfolk, I lived as a "beard" for 2 lesbians who were my best friends. Hated it when I had to leave to move to Amarillo.

    On my first ship, had a friend of mine named Paul, and I went out partying with him quite a bit......seems straight chicks are attracted to gay dudes, and Paul would make sure that I hooked up with women from whatever port we were in. He'd attract and charm 'em, and then turn them loose on me.

    Nope......I definitely like gay people.
     
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    You're right. It just hurt my feelings. This was someone I had even talked with on the phone a few times. I should have figured it out when she would not tell me her last name on the phone. She knows my real name and address, and phone number. I'm not worried about her bugging me. My feelings are hurt. I spent a lot of time listening to her, and thought we were becoming friends.

    She's very paranoid.
     
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    Oddly, I have noticed most rural areas are like that. The worst attacks on people based on such choices I have seen are all in suburban neighborhoods, followed by the big cities. In Seattle a few years back there was a short increase on gay men (or any man walking with another man even if they were straight) in the Cap. Hill area, it died down as quickly as it appeared once the police finally said they will treat it as a hate crime.
     

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