So I have been thinking about this in regards to a different thread. I am of the opinion that expectations are the root of suffering. When one expects something and that expectation goes unfulfilled it leads to resentment, fear, anger, and pain. It's easy enough to say "expect nothing and you will never be disappointed" but is it realistic and are there not certain circumstances where expectations are unavoidable? An abused child, for example....isn't it completely rational for a child to expect caring, loving parents when the child has neither the power nor the maturity to be able to influence their circumstances? As adults we hold more power over our own lives of course so I ask the following questions from an adult perspective: 1) Is it possible to "love without expectations?" 2) Is there such thing as legitimate expectations in adulthood?