I know exactly how they feel. Its not racism, its the truth. It is hard to find a good black man out there. I decided back in my teens that I wouldn't be wasting my time looking for a good black men when there was a whole rainbow of men out there. I always keep my options open. As long as the man is good I don't care what color he is. The mistake may educated black women like myself make is that they waste their time only looking for a black men and never go look outside their race.