TheBrain
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- Apr 26, 2011
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You are doing the same thing. You don't know her side of the story. It could be quite different than what he is saying.
Instead of whining he should talk to an attorney about his options.
Well that's the thing, his hands are up in the air in failure. His attorney has failed to get the judge to amend anything. That's why I was hoping for an experienced lawyer here, not just opinions which help also.
He's a great guy, and he loves his little girls. He lives in Saratoga and wants to move to Schenectady. The mom lives in Schenectady, the kids go to school in Schenectady, and he works there. It makes sense, so I told him to move. He started in about how he can't afford it because of his 25% dockage, and he explained to me that his Lawyer says that's just the way it is. Sucks, really.
I don't understand why the woman or man should defer the responsibility onto the other parent for their time. I wouldn't by any means feel like an accomplished person, I'd be embarrassed.
It seems to me that, in normal circumstances, the law should be that each parent gets 50% custody, and meets the full cost of that percentage alone. The only time that one parent should have primary or sole custody is if there is a serious and legitimate reason. That would stop all this bullshit about child support.
Aside from there being studies that have shown that the instability of living in a different home every other week is not healthy for the child (and I'm not saying I agree with those studies, just saying they are out there) In MOST cases the parents don't even live near enough to each other for that to be a viable option.
The truth is though that our system needs a serious revamping. One that does not actively discourage men from wanting to be part of their children's lives post divorce.