Can't decide if I am an atheist or just incredibly pissed of at God. I can't accept that any God that gives a damn about us would allow what happened to a woman as selflessly giving and widely adored as my mother, she died after long and horrible suffering, can't forgive him/her/it for that, easier to just consider the universe empty and meaninglessly chaotic.
These are hard questions. But there are answers, some don't come for many years. Sometimes it comes with wisdom. In my personal life I had a similar question and the answer came long after my prayers I thought were unanswered.
Yes, the scenario Occupied relates is one of the very toughest and most unanswerable difficiulties the human animal has to deal with. How could a loving God have allowed the terrible massacres, tortures, Jewish internment camps, other unspeakable atrocitiies, and our own loved ones to suffer so? And amidst it all many of us have witnessed unbelievable healings, amazing miracles, and unexplained kindnesses.
The Holy Spirit seems to make us wait for many answers and obviously some things are simply beyong our comprehension. But somewhere in there is an assurance that our loved ones who have passed on are all just fine and we'll be clued in on the unknowable soon enough. And I think God is okay with the anger directed at Him as it seems to be necessary in the grief process.