- Aug 6, 2012
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That a tough position. Women are nearly just as likely as men to be domestic abusers. But typically our Western legal systems still tend to treat women as "the fairer sex". Men reporting abuse is somewhat taboo, and oftentimes the legal system doesn't take these things as seriously as they do with men. That said, you've already stated that this far from the first time. So you knew what you had on your hands. Either continue to deal with it. Or end it. Just remember... The courts favor women in situations like these, and Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. So even if you somehow get this incident swept under the rug; don't discount her possible desire to even the score by getting the law involved. And 9 times out of 10 the man is going to be presumed guilty from the word go. And she certainly knows this...
The level of abuse she has used against me would flatten some people. I tried to hang on, hoping she might get better, hoping my life might be allowed to go forward with a career, but it's not the case obviously.
It's weird, because it's almost a "trauma bond" with her. If not for her gambling, we wouldn't be in this spot.
The longer you stay, the more chance she has to screw you, but not in the fun way.
If she is charged, I will still come to her defense, I am loyal that way. I've been with her 16 years, that's a long time.
Either way I need to consider that we might be finished. If they apply a peace bond we will be finished as well since I don't think she could even see me. Even the time to go to court is apparently a year or so.
It is true, we are all just humans, emotions, hopes, dreams and souls. Unforeseen situations occur.