Bonzi
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- May 17, 2015
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Conditioned response. Most of what you hear about yourself is negative from other people. If you do right no one says much but if you do wrong multiple people will let you know about it. I read somewhere you hear the word "no" or "dont" about 4 times more than you hear the word "yes" thousands of times before you can even talk. Some of that cant be avoided for safety reasons but I made an effort to praise my kids for everything they did right no matter how expected it was and even made up situations so they could succeed.Thats pretty normal. Most people are trained to use negative self talk from childhood.
I'm sorry - I'm so stream of consciousness!
I just started a print job, but, didn't put the cable in my lap top, and I said, out loud (with no one home) - "Stupid Idiot" ...
So I posted it on here....
I never said I was normal....
I wonder why only negative.
I never say "I rule" - well only when I get the final answer in Jeopardy and no one else does...
Like most things in life: balance
But it takes concerted effort. i was sure to be honest about both the good and bad with my kids. I don't understand parents that think the have to NEVER be negative with their kids.