Do You Force Religion on Your Kids?

Discussion in 'Religion and Ethics' started by liberalogic, Mar 5, 2006.

  1. liberalogic
    Offline

    liberalogic Member

    Joined:
    Jan 15, 2006
    Messages:
    539
    Thanks Received:
    48
    Trophy Points:
    16
    Location:
    NJ
    Ratings:
    +49
    I've wanted to bring this point up for a while and get some views from others. Is it really fair to raise your child as a member of any one religion? I know that tradition is important to many families, but I've always thought that if you are religious, you should firmly believe-- not believe because your parents tell you to do so.

    Now, it's true that once the kid turns 18, he/she has the choice to believe anything or nothing at all. But the truth of the matter is that by telling your kids to believe something (or to attend church, temple, mosque or wherever you go to worship), you are not giving them a choice.

    I've come to the conclusion that parents shouldn't raise their kids to be members of any religion (Don't worry, this is my ethical opinion, I don't think it should be a law or anything) because they are indoctrinating them before they have the chance to fully understand it and place it in the context of the world in which we live.

    For instance, I was brought up Roman Catholic (not devout or anything like that), but I did have the fear of God lurking around me in many things I did. As a matter of fact, I was kicked out of CCD (catholic school for those who go to public school) for asking how Mary was a Virgin if she had Jesus (I honestly didn't know the answer and was actually curious). My point is that there's a difference between being told to accept something and accepting it yourself...I think the latter of the two is more important and this can't be done (with regards to religion) until the child is older and able to truly grasp its magnitude.
     
  2. dmp
    Offline

    dmp Senior Member

    Joined:
    May 12, 2004
    Messages:
    13,088
    Thanks Received:
    741
    Trophy Points:
    48
    Location:
    Enterprise, Alabama
    Ratings:
    +741
    It's the DUTY of parents to raise their kids up believing in the faith of the Parents. Nobody can 'force' somebody to believe anything anyway, thus the premise of your question is false.
     
  3. GotZoom
    Offline

    GotZoom Senior Member

    Joined:
    Apr 20, 2005
    Messages:
    5,719
    Thanks Received:
    366
    Trophy Points:
    48
    Location:
    Cordova, TN
    Ratings:
    +366

    Religious people will almost always say yes. Non-believers will say no.

    Good question..but let me ask you this.

    If parents don't use good biblical philosphy in the upbringing of their child/children...what would they use?

    If not God..then what and how?
     
  4. dilloduck
    Offline

    dilloduck Diamond Member

    Joined:
    May 8, 2004
    Messages:
    53,240
    Thanks Received:
    5,552
    Trophy Points:
    1,850
    Location:
    Austin, TX
    Ratings:
    +6,403
    Do you think that parents should give children a variety of religious education?
    Classes in all the religions ?
     
  5. Nienna
    Offline

    Nienna Senior Member

    Joined:
    Feb 24, 2005
    Messages:
    4,515
    Thanks Received:
    333
    Trophy Points:
    48
    Location:
    Ohio
    Ratings:
    +333
    It is not only fair, but GOOD to raise your child with a set of beliefs. It gives them a starting point, a framework in which to understand their world.

    As Darin said, you cannot TAKE AWAY their choice. No matter what they are taught when young, they will (most often) mature to a point that they have to decide whether they want to break from tradition or follow it. Mind control is not a reality; no one can be FORCED to believe something.

    Religion is good because it teaches the kids that there is something beyond themselves, whether they end up believing in the supernatural or not.

    Some people are oversensitive, and they misinterpret innocent questions as being insolent. Or maybe this teacher was just afraid to hit on the topic of sex, which would inevitably come up in a discussion on this topic. Just because SOME people don't know or won't discuss answers does not mean that ALL religion opposes inquiry.
    Very true. But one cannot ignore the fact that children are learning the entire time they are growing. They do not wait for a magical point in maturity before they begin to wonder about things. I believe it is important to give kids a foundation or a framework, so that they have something upon which to base their judgment. The time ALWAYS comes (unless the child is mentally impaired) when they will seek independence and decide for themselves. If they are taught nothing, studies show that they will very likely believe in nothing.
     
    • Thank You! Thank You! x 2
  6. dilloduck
    Offline

    dilloduck Diamond Member

    Joined:
    May 8, 2004
    Messages:
    53,240
    Thanks Received:
    5,552
    Trophy Points:
    1,850
    Location:
    Austin, TX
    Ratings:
    +6,403
    :clap: :clap: Nice job Mom
     
  7. Nienna
    Offline

    Nienna Senior Member

    Joined:
    Feb 24, 2005
    Messages:
    4,515
    Thanks Received:
    333
    Trophy Points:
    48
    Location:
    Ohio
    Ratings:
    +333
    Thank you, kind sir! :)
     
  8. dilloduck
    Offline

    dilloduck Diamond Member

    Joined:
    May 8, 2004
    Messages:
    53,240
    Thanks Received:
    5,552
    Trophy Points:
    1,850
    Location:
    Austin, TX
    Ratings:
    +6,403
    Apparently liberalogic wasn't all that interested in an answer :dunno:
     
  9. Nienna
    Offline

    Nienna Senior Member

    Joined:
    Feb 24, 2005
    Messages:
    4,515
    Thanks Received:
    333
    Trophy Points:
    48
    Location:
    Ohio
    Ratings:
    +333
    Is he West Coast? Maybe it was dinner time.
     
  10. Joz
    Offline

    Joz Senior Member

    Joined:
    Mar 9, 2004
    Messages:
    3,392
    Thanks Received:
    221
    Trophy Points:
    48
    Ratings:
    +221
    So are you suggesting we allow children to run helter-skelter until they can grasp religion? I'm assuming you mean a particular religion/denomination; or do mean religous teachings at all?

    Most people stop maturing in religious development in the "rules" stage.
    I have seen no problem in rearing my children the way I believe. But as adulthood is reached, they begin to have questions. That allows for growth, for both of us.
     

Share This Page