Anyone here part of an interfaith relationship?

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    I am not talking about Methodist with a Baptist or an Orthodox with a Progressive, I am talking about a Muslim with a non-Muslim or Christian with a a non-Christian. If so, what are your thoughts and any advice? Thanks.
     
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    I wrote a really nice response, tho' a bit long. Instead......
    I've known quite a few who have been in such relationships, Christian w/non-Christian. I never felt more alone than when I was at church without my mate.
    I would say that the odds are for you if you chose someone with the same belief system you have; God, morals, child rearing, work ethic. But then, what do I know?
     
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    I am Hindu. We had two wedding ceremonies on consecutive days. My parents sat through the Christian ceremony respectfully, and hers sat through the Hindu one equally respectfully, though less comfortably, since sitting cross-legged didn't come easily to them. Her brother somehow located the required large number of marigolds for the Indian ceremony.

    We talked, and agreed that she could take our child(ren) to church or Sunday school as she wished, as long as she didn't mind any amount of Hindu input they got from me. Indians are open-minded about religion--they'll take any excuse to celebrate God. I tend to attend Mass with her on the major holidays. One of the best we ever attended was in New Delhi, with several thousand people, at least half of them not actually Christian, celebrated Christmas. The music was a tiny Indian harmonium, the tent decorated with Xmas lights, and the spirit pure joy.

    I think that it can work fine as long as there's no religious intolerance in either spouse's viewpoint. It's when someone thinks his/her religion is better than someone else's that troubles ensue--both in marriage and among nations.

    Mariner.
     
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    It's great that you two are tolerant of each other--does your wife feel threatened when the ACLU tries to persecute her expression of Christianity but supports Hinduism as an expression of diversity?
     
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    My ex is protestant, and I'm Catholic. This didn't pose any problems since neither of us are strident church goers ect. His mother on the other hand (who never goes to church either!) used to make the snidest rudest remarks about catholics - sometimes I wanted to punch her (well, most of the time I wanted to punch her, nothing new there I guess). Her ignorance towards me, and lack of knowledge about her own supposed faith was unbelievable.
     
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    I guess I'm in an interfaith relationship. I believe I'm always right. That's because I believe I'm smart. Also, I believe I should always get my way.

    Joz, alas, believes differently.
     
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    Some people are just so closed minded. I have the same problem.
     
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    LOL! Pepole who think they know everything are so annoying to those of us who actually DO!
     
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    When I was 12, I had a shirt that said that - seriously. :D
     
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    Hey, if it makes it's way to a t-shirt, it's GOTTA be true!
     

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