Againsheila
Gold Member
I think it's safe to say I feel a certain guilt about it, but not enough to ruin my relationship with anyone. I know that I love the girl, and I would do anything for her and always be there for her. That's good enough for me.
On the real, I just wish she was mine biologically so this didn't have to even be an issue.
At the very least, I think that I wish I had been there from birth. It was a pretty tough situation coming into her life when she was 2 years old (going on 40).
You don't just automatically fall deeply in love with a child. It took a while for our relationship to develop into what it is today. I'm still the guy who simply replaces her real dad, I know that's how she looks at it, regardless of how much she loves me.
She still thinks her dad is just "away" and "just can't make it here", and whatever. There will be a time when she's older where the truth of the situation can be explained more to her, but for now she doesn't really need to know being only 6 years old. She's a happy girl and she's fine without the guy.
As I said before, you probably feel different towards your son because he's a boy. Men often feel differently towards their sons than they do their daughters, it doesn't mean they love them any less, just differently. I have two boys and they are very different and I love them both, but my love for each is unique to them.