a lonely day in hell

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    today was my day off....no dealing with mom...no dealing with anything...just gonna do housework and forget the cursing i took yesterday for trying to take her shopping...i ask her to put her seat belt on...her reply....'your a controlling bitch' i was told to go to hell...never come back and to fuck myself....ahhh feel the love...i know ...its the disease but that is hard to understand when someone you are trying to do the best you can for ...is telling you how worthless you are...

    11:15 the phone rings...i see its her aid calling..the aid tells me my mother has 900 bucks in cash and somehow has been to the bank....i flip....the aid is telling me she has gotten my mother to take the 900 dollars to the front desk of the alf...they are holding it for me...but my mother cashed a check for 1000...

    i call the clerk of court who fusses at me for not making this account a guardianship one....hey i am new at this and didnt know you could convert an account...anyways...i call the bank and the lady tells me she is the one who cashed the check...i ask who was with my mom...she tells me the young lady that is always with her..

    the aids have instructions never to take my mother to a bank etc...the aid lied and said first she didnt take her...the aid was fired and reported to the registry.....

    so right when i think...this day cant get any worse ...my son calls...he tells me will is dead...killed saturday in a car wreck...i read about the wreck but at that time no names were released...i have known will's family for over 30 years.....will was 29...and the apple of his mother's eye...his 5 yr old son survived....he was in his car seat...will had on his seat belt..his air bags did not deploy....

    i see no end in sight for the misery....no end at all....i am beginning to realize how hopeless it all is
     
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    Make it so your mother has no access to funds. You cannot trust people that work in retirement homes, sadly.
     
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    Bones, always remember that no matter HOW bad it seems it's never worth giving up. And yes you need to get power of attorney for your mom's affairs.
     
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    yea i did that today.....you really just cant trust anyone anymore
     
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    i had a durable power of attorney and a health care power of attorney...her siblings forced me to have her declared incompetent and get a full guardianship....no matter how prepared you are...someone will try to fuck with you
     
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    Damn Bones…. Sorry to hear you are having a rough day (that’s putting it lightly)

    I will send you some good vibes (prayers).

    Keep your head up though…. Good things happen to good people.
     
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    If worse comes to worse, just take her name off of everything.
     
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    Ive been a lot happier since I gave up hope.
     
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    Wow.. what a miserable day. Wishing you a better tomorrow. :eusa_pray:
     
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