That's the problem. You are on the outside looking in and think you know more about what goes on inside.
Funny you mention old.
Funny you use the term "n*ggers". I've heard far more black refer to other blacks by that term than whites. Guess it's only racist when white people do it?
Know who else is on the outside looking in? Every single other person who isn't a member of your party. That includes Democrats, third party members, independents, and even foreigners. If you care about the survival of your party then you'll consider how you come across to prospective members and supporters. The Democrats are in a better position largely because they have done this. They adopted populism and political correctness and made themselves a symbol of cooperation and mutual understanding. They went out of their way to build bridges to other people because they understood that other people mean votes, money, and free PR. It especially helps their cause that the GOP has went out of its way to reject these things as signs of weakness and to focus its efforts on appealing solely to demographic groups which are shrinking in size and power every day. In doing so - in expressing the attitudes which you express here - the GOP has essentially poisoned itself and sacrificed any long term viability for short term gain.