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I had a brief relationship with a black man who either could not or would not bother to pronounce my last name correctly. Didn't seem to even want to learn it. Not that difficult a name either. Not European in origin. About half of the people I ever met pronounced it correctly and most people at least asked me how to pronounce it.
I had to deduce that either my name just wasn't important to the man or he was too stupid to get it.
It was a brief relationship.
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Not knowing HOW to pronounce a word is completely different from being a lazy ass and not bothering to pronounce it correctly.
We all have dialects and slurs in our personal language, but most of us take the few SECONDS it takes to learn how to properly pronounce the word and know what it means.
I'm writing a book about work habits and manners and such.......one of the major points is a persons name, and you don't fuck with it without their permission.
I take a few seconds to sound out someones name before I open my mouth and say it wrong.
If I am completely unsure of how to pronounce their name, I will just ask them. Simple as that.
I'm constantly insulted and slandered, because a lot of people refuse to call me by MY name, which they are told in no uncertain terms what it is.
It's a simple name and easy to pronounce, but these fuktards refuse. They call me anybody elses name except MINE! And then they have the nerve to get mad at ME because I'm not answering them when they call me. Well, that isn't MY name. I don't answer to other peoples names, only mine.
One bitch started a fight with me, because she said it WAS my name, and I told her it wasn't, and she could call my momma, and my momma would tell her the same!
I really despise these POS who think it's THEIR right and responsibility to be changing other peoples names!!