you do realize that his post is mostly a self portrait dont you? [/COLOR]
If so, this is the perfect place to work out and come to terms with this very issue -
of denial and projection. That's even better. Perfect!
* When you realize the process is MUTUAL, and that you are doing it too, that is the first AHA - that the part you can do something
about is your responsibility and your half of the problem (instead of projecting it onto others).
When you realize your willingness to change is connected with and can influence the equivalent change in the other person in the conflict, that is the second AHA - that you can change others by changing your perception and commitment first (instead of feeling hopeless and believing things outside yourself need to change first before you can, when it's simultaneous).
And when you realize whatever changes there is connected with all other relations and humanity, and has a collective effect
like a chain reaction, where the change is simultaneous/correlated over time and space (not limited by linear perception of time) that is the final AHA - that changes happens in tandem, connecting individiual and collective experience as one in the same process.
(also called interconnectedness or oneness with all humanity and all creation in process of restoring natural harmony as a whole)