great, so let me qualify--------of the many many gay couples that I know and have known, every one of them consists of a masculine member and a feminine member, in some the difference is greater than others, but its always there.
you may be the exception, but I doubt it.
and for the record I have said the same things to my gay friends that I have said to you. Not one of them is as defensive as you are. Role playing??????????
Yes, role playing is exactly it. Now you are getting warmer.
Next question to ask yourself is, what is it in the mannish lesbian that the feminine one is attracted to, and the femme one that a masculine gay man is attracted to likewise? Can anyone say "closet heterosexuality"?
The issues are mental. And as such, states have a right to consensus, to say "no" to gay marriage. Marriage is the acme of institutions that carry the torch of a social icon. To iconize untreated mental issues as a "race" is perhaps one of the greatest perverse mistakes in modern times.
Add to that the high incidence of gays having been molested as children. Their gravitation to drug abuse, depression and so forth; all stemming from untreated mental illness from the scars of childhood sexual abuse, and you really see what's going on: Institutionalized insanity as a social movement.
Surviving it is something to be proud of. Promoting it is not.