I try to be understanding of folks religious beliefs because I do believe they often mean well, but I'm afraid we need a dose of reality on this subject here. If you were/are a "good" girl/boy by abstaining until marriage, that's awesome for you, but it's not what a lot (maybe even most) kids are doing in the real world. I actually agree with the "idea" of waiting until married, waiting until you have the money to afford kids, etc., but we're not talking about what you nor I personally believe is "best" for people, we are talking about what kids/young adults are /actually/ doing.
Let me tell you about my experience growing up, in a mostly Christian smaller town, (Alaska, which is still mostly Christian and also apparently social/culturally stuck in the 50s) Like half of my friends got pregnant in HS (and I only went for two years.) One of my "better" friends had her first kido as a sophomore; ultimately she had 6 kids (and lost custody of all of them because she and her husband - a local pot grower / seller made illegal by the Feds - never stopped their "business" after it was made illegal in '92; they actually made more money after the state was forced to criminalize it and the police didn't particularly give a shit for a long time - like it prob. took until the early 2000's before they "seriously" started enforcing pot drug laws - and that was for money JS - anyway, they wouldn't give up growing and ultimately the Fed agents caught them.) - sorry got a bit off track there...
I lost my virginity at 15, to my fiancé, I was one of the few who had... idk "qualifications" I suppose. I wanted it to be someone special, I wanted it to be important, I wanted it to be someone who loved me... Like it was some kind of gift or something lol... I wasn't like everyone else though... Everyone else /were/ like porn stars or something... No joke, there was a BBS' in Anchorage where the girls talked about who did what to them and if they liked it, there was a lot of discussion about how to find your g-spot and stuff... The cheerleaders at my school had a little [not so secret] club called Frito's - where they played match maker and hooked folks up for "good lays." I was... not really made fun of, but idk thought of as a prude kind of because I was still a virgin in HS, most everyone else claims to have lost their virginity in jr. high, my (now) ex-husband claimed to have lost his at 13, our best friend said he was 12... I personally always kind of thought our school was full of whores (and that's saying something cause I'm no where near a prude) but the thing is, my personal thoughts and beliefs didn't matter for anyone but /me/ - everyone else did what they wanted, which was having a lot of "free sex".
The argument ultimately boils down to a mistaken belief that not teaching kids about sex somehow delays their dabbling in it... it's complete bunk I'm afraid. My sex ed class (I think it was in Jr. High) was total rubbish - Christian inspired talking about biological aspects then a bunch of stuff on periods (to try to gross the boys out or something) ... complete failure on stopping any of the sex going on, and almost all of us already knew WAY more than they even /thought/ about talking about in the class (and that was /before/ the internet.) It was a waste of time and money, too little too late; 3 of the girls in my particular sex ed class were expecting, JS. -- (On the other hand, it seems that abstinence is now back in the "cool club" up here - being a virgin is a badge of honor currently, and throughout HS all the kido's proudly touted that they were "waiting" (not for marriage, but rather until they were financially ready for kids. And thus far, with the kids at 30, 22, 21, 20, and 16 - I have no grandchildren Yay!)
So basically, no I don't think there is any such thing as "grooming," neither in the so-called "encouraging" of kids to have sex through sex education, nor in the ridiculous fantasy that gay people have infiltrated school districts in order to teach kids to bend over and spread their cheeks. ~rolls eyes~