People play the games they want to play.
We don't live in a controlled environment - where we have to play by any given rules, in relationships or otherwise.
Want to play it your way? State your rules up front. People interested and with similar "values" to yours will stick around.
I asked a woman I was having an affair with ; if she wanted to stay in it for the long haul. We were having luch together if I am right. She said yes. I was getting a divorced, as was she. I was done wrong - stabbed in teh back and taken advantage of ; her husband treated her terribly. We found an interest in each other.
The woman i asked to stay with me was funny - smart ; and again, a sharp dresser. We got along terrifically, and we "Clicked".
After me asking her if we was in it together till the end - she started distancing herself from me, calling me on my cell phone less often, and stopped coming by my work place. I would call her, and get voice mail. After three weeks of her distancing herself from me ; I knew it was the end. About 6 weeks after I asked her to go all the way to the end with me - for a permanent relationship ; she basically disappeared.
We met for breakfast one morning, at the Metropolitan Area where I worked EMS - I believe we met on the west or southwest side of town. We were followed , and while eating breakfast we were being watched ( I will call it surveilled )......and why we were being watched - I do not know why. ( NO - I am not a criminal )
Her house - large house concerned me. Her husband had a good job ; but it was not great. Expensive.....to expensive for both of them in my opinion. I don't know their financials - and I might be wrong........but the house they lived in did set bells and whistles off in my head - real loud one afternoon as I set in her kitchen at the counter ( Corner of the counter ?? ) ; her standing between the counter and the stove ( or close to it ) and asking me if was alright / if I was OK.
I did not see where they could afford a large home ( Brick house if I remember correctly ) in a "Very Ritzy" part of the neighborhood. The furnishings was excellent
WOMEN also, pick relationships that go no where. They just want a "companion" for awhile ; or until it gets serious.
Women at times also - are underhanded and have ulterior motives. They can be sneaky and not trustworthy.
I know.......from experience.
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