Living Together vs. Marriage

[Bonzi]

I'm not a fan of marriage. Seems to change people when you are tethered financially and morally like it was a corporate merger. You should be with someone because you want to, not because you have to. I can see why women would prefer it though.

Well, yeah, that's sort of the whole point. It's a major life decision, so it's kinda supposed to change you.

That whole "as long as I'm comfy, I shouldn't feel obligated or committed" is exactly why most marriages today fail.

And no, having a partner who's actually committed to you and the relationship is not just appealing to women. In many ways, it actually benefits men even more.

Yes, I know many guys that can't function without a woman. They would eat out every night and buy new clothes when they get dirty. But I am not that way and don't feel the need to change into somebody else and wouldn't ask a gal to.

I have never lived alone. I have lived without a man in my life (meaning boyfriend/husband) but never alone.
I am not sure I ever will.....
It kills me.

 

[Bonzi]

Think the idea from the "Earth 2" series has a lot of emrit: marriage contracts for a fixed length of time with option to renew. Get married for 5 years, if things are still amicable after 5 years can renew for another 5.

Never heard of the show, I kinda like it. What about rentals? I could go for that, a rental bride. Maybe a short term lease with the option to own?

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

Weird conversation.............

You can't answer so it's weird?

correct, I have no clue what you are saying............

 

[Iceweasel]

Never heard of the show, I kinda like it. What about rentals? I could go for that, a rental bride. Maybe a short term lease with the option to own?

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

Weird conversation.............

You can't answer so it's weird?

correct, I have no clue what you are saying............

Apparently not. If legalities are not there the gal's life is on hold...but the guy's isn't, was the point. Seems a bit biased if you ask me.

 

[Bonzi]

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

Weird conversation.............

You can't answer so it's weird?

correct, I have no clue what you are saying............

Apparently not. If legalities are not there the gal's life is on hold...but the guy's isn't, was the point. Seems a bit biased if you ask me.

I think I need to go back and re-read. My brain is currently on 3-4 things and this is #4

 

[Cecilie1200]

Think the idea from the "Earth 2" series has a lot of emrit: marriage contracts for a fixed length of time with option to renew. Get married for 5 years, if things are still amicable after 5 years can renew for another 5.

Never heard of the show, I kinda like it. What about rentals? I could go for that, a rental bride. Maybe a short term lease with the option to own?

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

It was your idea.

 

[Iceweasel]

Think the idea from the "Earth 2" series has a lot of emrit: marriage contracts for a fixed length of time with option to renew. Get married for 5 years, if things are still amicable after 5 years can renew for another 5.

Never heard of the show, I kinda like it. What about rentals? I could go for that, a rental bride. Maybe a short term lease with the option to own?

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

It was your idea.

It takes two to Tango.

 

[Cecilie1200]

I'm not a fan of marriage. Seems to change people when you are tethered financially and morally like it was a corporate merger. You should be with someone because you want to, not because you have to. I can see why women would prefer it though.

Well, yeah, that's sort of the whole point. It's a major life decision, so it's kinda supposed to change you.

That whole "as long as I'm comfy, I shouldn't feel obligated or committed" is exactly why most marriages today fail.

And no, having a partner who's actually committed to you and the relationship is not just appealing to women. In many ways, it actually benefits men even more.

Yes, I know many guys that can't function without a woman. They would eat out every night and buy new clothes when they get dirty. But I am not that way and don't feel the need to change into somebody else and wouldn't ask a gal to.

I have never lived alone. I have lived without a man in my life (meaning boyfriend/husband) but never alone.
I am not sure I ever will.....
It kills me.

I've never lived alone, but I've lived with being the only adult in the house.

 

[Cecilie1200]

Think the idea from the "Earth 2" series has a lot of emrit: marriage contracts for a fixed length of time with option to renew. Get married for 5 years, if things are still amicable after 5 years can renew for another 5.

Never heard of the show, I kinda like it. What about rentals? I could go for that, a rental bride. Maybe a short term lease with the option to own?

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

It was your idea.

It takes two to Tango.

This would apply if you can find a woman advertising for a man to live with her and give her all the bennies a woman gets from marriage without any of the responsibilities.

Good luck with that.

 

[Bonzi]

I'm not a fan of marriage. Seems to change people when you are tethered financially and morally like it was a corporate merger. You should be with someone because you want to, not because you have to. I can see why women would prefer it though.

Well, yeah, that's sort of the whole point. It's a major life decision, so it's kinda supposed to change you.

That whole "as long as I'm comfy, I shouldn't feel obligated or committed" is exactly why most marriages today fail.

And no, having a partner who's actually committed to you and the relationship is not just appealing to women. In many ways, it actually benefits men even more.

Yes, I know many guys that can't function without a woman. They would eat out every night and buy new clothes when they get dirty. But I am not that way and don't feel the need to change into somebody else and wouldn't ask a gal to.

I have never lived alone. I have lived without a man in my life (meaning boyfriend/husband) but never alone.
I am not sure I ever will.....
It kills me.

I've never lived alone, but I've lived with being the only adult in the house.

Yep, that was also a happy time for me. Was just me and my oldest son for a while. Then I got stupid and got engaged.... when the split up was another very happy time.

I remember after breaking the engagement literally dancing in front of my new apartment!

 

[Iceweasel]

Never heard of the show, I kinda like it. What about rentals? I could go for that, a rental bride. Maybe a short term lease with the option to own?

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

It was your idea.

It takes two to Tango.

This would apply if you can find a woman advertising for a man to live with her and give her all the bennies a woman gets from marriage without any of the responsibilities.

Good luck with that.

But she would get all of the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibilities too. That's my point. No, I'm not holding my breath, I said early on women tend to favor the legal ties more than men do. I can see why generations ago but today a woman can earn as much or more than a guy.

 

[Bonzi]

And why should she put her life on hold to accept that arrangement?

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

It was your idea.

It takes two to Tango.

This would apply if you can find a woman advertising for a man to live with her and give her all the bennies a woman gets from marriage without any of the responsibilities.

Good luck with that.

But she would get all of the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibilities too. That's my point. No, I'm not holding my breath, I said early on women tend to favor the legal ties more than men do. I can see why generations ago but today a woman can earn as much or more than a guy.

I don't think as many women are as eager to marry as they once were....
My nieces are in no hurry - they are very successful as well - so I think things are changing in that regard, at least from what I am seeing in my family....

 

[Iceweasel]

Why is her life on hold and mine isn't?

It was your idea.

It takes two to Tango.

This would apply if you can find a woman advertising for a man to live with her and give her all the bennies a woman gets from marriage without any of the responsibilities.

Good luck with that.

But she would get all of the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibilities too. That's my point. No, I'm not holding my breath, I said early on women tend to favor the legal ties more than men do. I can see why generations ago but today a woman can earn as much or more than a guy.

I don't think as many women are as eager to marry as they once were....
My nieces are in no hurry - they are very successful as well - so I think things are changing in that regard, at least from what I am seeing in my family....

Oh, it's common alright. In my contracting endeavours the homeowner is more times than not a single gal.

 

[Bonzi]

It was your idea.

It takes two to Tango.

This would apply if you can find a woman advertising for a man to live with her and give her all the bennies a woman gets from marriage without any of the responsibilities.

Good luck with that.

But she would get all of the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibilities too. That's my point. No, I'm not holding my breath, I said early on women tend to favor the legal ties more than men do. I can see why generations ago but today a woman can earn as much or more than a guy.

I don't think as many women are as eager to marry as they once were....
My nieces are in no hurry - they are very successful as well - so I think things are changing in that regard, at least from what I am seeing in my family....

Oh, it's common alright. In my contracting endeavours the homeowner is more times than not a single gal.

Women used to need men.
Not anymore.
Unfortunately, this change has hurt children (my opinion)

 

[Iceweasel]

Women used to need men.
Not anymore.
Unfortunately, this change has hurt children (my opinion)

Well they do need them but I charge for my services.

 

[Bonzi]

Women used to need men.
Not anymore.
Unfortunately, this change has hurt children (my opinion)

Well they do need them but I charge for my services.

explain to me what I would need from you...