Letting your child(ren) win

[Truthmatters]

We get it, you're ugly. YOu've told us that before.

And that's your excuse for being the obnoxious toad you are today.

Thank you for sharing.

see what your philosophy has taken you to?

You know as much about my philosophy as you do about anything else you opine on.

I only know what you show on here.

You dont care about people.

This guy could be suicidal for all you know.

Pat yourself on the back miss christain.

 

[editec]

I'm curious about the views and philosophies of other parents when it comes to playing games with their pre-K children, especially regarding letting them win. I think it's important for children to experience both winning and losing, and therefore striking the optimum balance is key.

I don't have any hard and fast rules, but I've noticed a bit of a pattern myself.

When it comes to games that involve skill (checkers, mancala, memory, fish, etc), I'm much more likely make sure they win at least more than they lose, but on average probably 4 out of 5 times. When it comes to games that are all, or almost all luck (candyland, chutes & ladders, bingo, etc.), I usually just let the luck fall where it may unless they've lost a couple in a row, in which case I make sure they win the next one.

Thoughts?

CRUSH their sense of self worth while they're still young enough that they cannot fight back.

Until they finally murder you in your sleep when the voices in their head finally tell them too (usually that'll happen some time after puberty) they'll be much easier to manage.

 

[R.D.]

Shit no I don't let them win. I might not commit my all to playing poker, but it's a game and if I'm playing a game I'm going to take my wins.

And Monopoly, cribbage, tic tac toe? It's a dog eat dog world, kidlets.

I cheat - it's sooooo easy when they be that little

 

[Intense]

As the World turns and Dr. Spock turns in his grave. Some people should not have kids.

 

[AllieBaba]

My kids will kick your ass at Uno!

 

[Mad Scientist]

so what, exactly, did Jack Fate do to you?

I don't know who Jack is, but the Fates (Maiden, Matron, and Crone if you will) wove me a thread of life that includes something called Sturge Weber Syndrome. I won't expect that you've ever heard of it. It's characterized in my case by a full facial birthmark, cranial calcification, glaucoma, and epileptic activity. In most cases it's also characterized by moderate to severe brain damage. I avoided the vast majority of that issue, thankfully.

I had a Grand Mal seizure in the summer of 1978, at 4 years old. I was paralyzed on the left side of my body for 18 hours. Back then nobody ever considered giving a 4 year old physical therapy. Instead they put me on a high-end anti-seizure medication for 11 years. A medication that tends to retard physical development of the body. It's only in the last 6-9 months that my left (dominant) side has finally become anywhere near as strong as my right side. It's also left me several inches shorter and less physically developed than I might have been otherwise.

So between the physical issues and going through life wearing a birthmark platered across my face (which you can surely comprehend being a major social inconvenience); it's been a bit of a less than fully pleasant experience.

There's this guy at the place I work at that has a birthmark covering the entire right side of his face (I've seen the picture you posted of yourself a while back) He's a real nice guy who walks around and interacts with people like it just doesn't exist.

When I was in the service, my buddy was dating this Black chick who had a birthmark from the bottom of her lip down to her chest. She would talk about it once in a while but otherwise, just made like it wasn't there. It was overseas too so there was no shortage of guys trying to get with her. (Some guys just won't date the local women)

 

[Anachronism]

You make that decision. You have ONLY you to blame. Take your good qualities and make them your driving force. Everyday every human being that walks owes this world to become a better person. It is what it means to be human and to care about other humans.

Yes, I have made that decision. I made the decision based on the fact that the amount of time, energy, etc... that would be required to be invested are WELL beyond any return that can be expected on that investment. Kind of like going down to the casino with the life savings and expecting to walk out of their a millionaire. It doesn't happen very often. Most of the time you end up flat broke and living in the gutter.

I'm not so sure there really ARE many/any good qualities to me anymore. Sorry, but I'm a believer in the two-way street. This world will get back from me exactly what it has given me.... DOG CRAP, and nothing more.

Remember, I really don't care about probably 99.99% of the human population.

You have given up and when you give up like you have you then have no right to condemn others for not being better human beings. Be the change you want to see. I care about you buddy but you have to care enough about me to make yourself a better person. Care about others enough to do that and your life will change in increments for the better.

Again, remember that I expect the worst from people. I don't expect them to be decent people. The change I want to see is not something that is ever going to happen. Humanity has long since passed that option by. TM, I can count on my fingers and toes the total number of people on this planet that I truly care about, and have digits left over.

Making myself a better person isn't going to happen. Too much baggage and history for that to happen. Nor do I care enough about most other people to even really bother trying. The few people I do care about know who I can be when I feel there is a reason to be a decent person. I have found very few people in the world who deserve to see that part of me.

YOU have to deal with your anger issues or you will hurt someone someday.

Probably myself, to be honest. Either way, it will end right then and there.

You do not live in a vacuum

Unfortunately you're right; though I do my best to limit my interactions with most of the modern world quite a bit.

 

[AllieBaba]

Gosh, this reminds me of something...

Oh yeah, The Elephant Man.

Except John Merrick was a kind and loving individual who didn't spew hatred towards women.

 

[Mr_Rockhead]

Seriously- what's the big deal. Just kids. Let 'em have fun.

For some of us it was never about the "Fun" because the only "Fun" was in the "Winning". Even to this day, if I cannot separate the activity from the idea of Competition, I cannot enjoy it unless I Win. That's why I don't engage in a lot of even semi-competitive activities; and the ones I do participate in, I go out of my way to make sure they're things I have no chance of winning, so that hopefully those competitive juices don't ever get ignited and destroy that activity for me.

Just curious, do you post on these very competitive political boards because you find it fun (like some of us) or do you think this is something you can win at?

 

[Mr_Rockhead]

As far as letting my kid win goes…

My father taught us how to play penny-ante poker very early-on and he never let us win. Of course, once he (and my grandfather) won all our pennies, they would give them back to us so we could play some more. And us kids could not get enough of it because it was so much fun just playing the game.

When my daughter was very young, I usually always let her win at games like hide-and-seek because she got such a kick out of beating me back to the gools (first time I’ve ever tried to spell that word).

However, when we played games like poker, I always let the cards do the talking and she seldom won but, like me at that age, she simply could not get enough of it.

All in all, I guess I feel that, as long as everyone is getting a few yuks out of it, it really doesn’t matter who wins when playing a game with your kid(s).

 

[Anachronism]

Just curious, do you post on these very competitive political boards because you find it fun (like some of us) or do you think this is something you can win at?

Neither, since I don't see this sort of interaction as anything competitive. It's simply a place to exchange ideas and to keep an eye on the beliefs of one's political Enemies. I'm definitely not here for fun; but it's informational, not competitive in my mind.

 

[Truthmatters]

Yeap rockhead , I agree you use the letting them win tactic when you feel they need it. Some never need it and most need it a little bit. Not one kid needs to win all the time.

Its teaching them how to play the game and be a decent sport about it.

 

[random3434]

Oh yeah, Poker!


The first card game I ever learned how to play as a little child.

My entire family stlll plays, and we all have taught our kids how to play. Sometimes I'm the only girl playing when my brother has his buddies over to play. I LOVE taking their money!


Anyone here ever play Michigan Rummy? That's a fun family game that involves poker and other card games, we used money to put in each little pot on the board.

Michigan Rummy Rules - Home

 

[Mr_Rockhead]

Oh yeah, Poker!


The first card game I ever learned how to play as a little child.

My entire family stlll plays, and we all have taught our kids how to play. Sometimes I'm the only girl playing when my brother has his buddies over to play. I LOVE taking their money!


Anyone here ever play Michigan Rummy? That's a fun family game that involves poker and other card games, we used money to put in each little pot on the board.

Michigan Rummy Rules - Home

Poker was our main game but we also played Michigan Rummy and, if I recall correctly, it was the King and Queen of Hearts that gave the best pay-out.

 

[Mr_Rockhead]

Just curious, do you post on these very competitive political boards because you find it fun (like some of us) or do you think this is something you can win at?

Neither, since I don't see this sort of interaction as anything competitive. It's simply a place to exchange ideas and to keep an eye on the beliefs of one's political Enemies. I'm definitely not here for fun; but it's informational, not competitive in my mind.

You know, I was going to let this slide, but I kept coming back to the notion that you don’t come here to have a little fun (as well as partake in serious discussion).

No offense, but, when I look at your avatar and read some of your posts, I get a mental picture of Marvin the robot (Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy) and I come apart. And I can only imagine what some must think of me - both good and bad. So I am only half convinced that you really don’t see any entertainment value in doing this.

I truly believe everyone here must find at least a little humor in the sheer humanness of such a diverse group of people all trying to get their point across at the same time.

For crying out loud, we are posting on a thread about playing games with our kids and look at all the different directions it’s going. I can’t help but get a kick out of the simple absurdity of it all - and here I am right in the middle of it.

Once again, no offense meant and, either way, hang in there and keep on posting.

 

[Anachronism]

You know, I was going to let this slide, but I kept coming back to the notion that you don’t come here to have a little fun (as well as partake in serious discussion).

Humor is not a significant part of my life and hasn't been for more than a quarter century. Fun is only slightly more of a part of my life than humor.

No offense, but, when I look at your avatar and read some of your posts, I get a mental picture of Marvin the robot (Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy) and I come apart. And I can only imagine what some must think of me - both good and bad. So I am only half convinced that you really don’t see any entertainment value in doing this.

Marvin is probably a relatively fair comparison, to be honest. Actually, I don't think much one way or the other about most of the posters here. There are a few I'd call friends; more who have earned there way onto the Ignore List and the rest are pretty much non-entities in terms of anything more than their posts.

 

[Cecilie1200]

We never "let" our kids win, but we are also careful to play games with them in which they have a reasonable chance of winning on their own. When they're just starting out, that means playing kids' games aimed at their age level, where winning is more about the luck of the dice roll than anything else, and using the opportunity to teach them as much as possible about things like reading, counting, and planning ahead. As they get older, we advance them through more complicated games, and rather than engineering or faking a win for them, we explain to them their various choices and the likely consequences, so that they learn tactics and strategizing. It doesn't take all that long before they're able to generate their own wins.

 

[random3434]

I'm just glad to see so many of you still play games with your kids, instead of letting them sit around playing video games all day!

With the teens we now play Trivial Pursuit a few times a week, 2 adults and 3 teens, they love playing it, and so do we!

 

[Truthmatters]

Chronology | Board Game | BoardGameGeek

this is a great game to play with kids.

You can play in teams to take the pressure off the little ones

 

[manifold]

We never "let" our kids win, but we are also careful to play games with them in which they have a reasonable chance of winning on their own. When they're just starting out, that means playing kids' games aimed at their age level, where winning is more about the luck of the dice roll than anything else, and using the opportunity to teach them as much as possible about things like reading, counting, and planning ahead. As they get older, we advance them through more complicated games, and rather than engineering or faking a win for them, we explain to them their various choices and the likely consequences, so that they learn tactics and strategizing. It doesn't take all that long before they're able to generate their own wins.

So you really go to town on the hungry hungry hippos lever to make sure you get more marbles than the tikes huh? That doesn't sound very nice to me.