Sorry, I made a dupe by accident.
Muddy, it doesn't matter to me which gender pays me compliments. I take them all in goodwill, and it is the gesture that makes me feel good, more so than what they compliment me on.
In a business situation, I have remembered the compliments by men, much more so than women. These men were my managers, but I was their goal.
One woman co-worker hated me and gave me a rough time, because until I arrived, she had been the top salesperson, every month. For a year I tolerated her, without repercussion. When I left there, she bowed her redheaded head, and told me she "respected me." I thought I had not heard her correctly, as her head was looking down at her folded legs, where she was sitting. I asked, "pardon, Linda?" She looked straight up and me, with teary eyes, and repeated how she respected me.
I never forgot that. She was a strong headed woman, and unaccustomed to being humble. I am glad she did it, because I think it made her feel better about all the jealousy and grief she had tried to give me ( but never succeeded ) and I felt better about her, because it was a relief to know her truth. Win/win!
We were each, cleansed.
