Again... I don't have a problem with removing government from the marriage business altogether. I don't think the government, at the federal level, has any power whatsoever when it comes to how we as individuals define marriage. That should be entirely up to us, and we should be free to believe whatever we want... If we believe homosexuality is wrong and there is no such thing as homosexual marriage... that should be respected. If we believe gay marriage is a beautiful thing between two people who love one another... that should also be respected.
Have you been arguing to get the gov out of the "marriage business" for your whole life, or only /now/ that the rules of the game are changing about your "ball"?
Marriage licenses have been issued since the middle ages and oft tied with gov, interestingly they were "invented" specifically to permit marriages that would otherwise be "illegal/invalid" for various reasons; because the waiting period wasn't up, because the "designated" dowry wasn't paid, or whatever. It was a way for a couple, or their parents, to circumvent the established traditional church "formality" rules about marriage (and/or to avoid the "banns of marriage" proclamation as a public matter.)
Up until the 1600's marriage was a private matter; basically if a couple told the church or (gov) court that they were married that was that. However, the church(s) were finding issues they didn't like; Catholic's marrying non-Catholics, divorce and/or second marriages, or even because the marriage didn't take place at the prescribed times and other stuff like that so /they/ pushed for a more formal "legitimate" form of marriage. In the mid 1700's the Church of England declared that marriages were basically a gov. issue and marriage licenses started to get /really/ entangled with gov. (Some stupid shit in there too, like in the early 1800's there was a combo gov/church "edict" that marriages performed between 6pm and 8am were invalid lol)
Now of course, America didn't follow the Church of England's lead there, specifically noted freedom of religion and such in our founding documents. So in America, we didn't require the "banns" to make a marriage "official" as declared by the European religions (Roman Catholics, Church of England, etc.) so we kind of followed our own rules here. As far back as the early 1600's marriages licenses were being issued in the "new world" so in 1776 we American's continued our "tradition" of defining our own rules about marriage. From the get-go we'd put it into states hands; like in most states we recognized "common law" marriages but NC and Tenn /never/ recognized them as legal, or a number of states required a blood test while a bunch didn't, etc. So not only did America make it's own rules about what constituted a "legal" marriage, the individual states did as well.
This poses a problem if one is to argue "tradition" as some kind of across the board standard, because the truth is that there /wasn't/ any across the board standard for the country; we have made our own beliefs and rules from the beginning of this country. While one can reasonably argue that it should just be left up to the states (and only run into the higher power of the us constitution,) one cannot "reasonably" argue that there is an "over reaching" belief across the board that "marriage is between one man and one woman" because there /are/ Christian churches all over this country who (even openly) support SSM. To argue that /your/ state or churches particular definition is "right" and the other's "wrong" is not a valid argument in the US, and frankly history shows very clearly that it never has been that way. Reality is that the constitution overrules all of it and has to, unless we're going to switch to a theocracy - and even if we did, why should the churches who welcome SSM be forced into submission by those who are against it??
In the end, the constitution very correctly declares that marriage is a fundamental right of humans; and it's not even limited to the US, the UN and many other countries note the exact opinion. Even if one wishes to argue that it's just Liberals pushing an agenda, then the painful truth for "selective traditionalists" is that Liberals are winning across the planet...
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Now, if we want to talk honestly about the supposed "pedophile" threat SSM somehow opens up, well then lets talk about some of the legit marriages approved by the church itself. There wasn't originally any age requirement for marriages - in fact there are hundreds of marriage licenses from the 1850's that note the bride's age as young as 12 and grooms ages as young as 14. Back then, prior to like the 16th century, there wasn't any concept of "childhood" what-so-ever - children were considered to be little adults so the idea of "pedophilia" didn't even exist as an "idea" much less was it recognized as a factor in a "legit" marriage. In fact, "Pedophila" as a concept didn't even exist until the 1900's, and it wasn't until the 1950's that the actual term for it was put out. It wasn't until 1929 that an actual rule was put down by the church(es) about children and marriage; 16 and/or 21 depending on particular religion and where in the world, and that wasn't even really a church thing, it was put in because of societal thinking changes, not because of any religious belief. (The concept of sexual consent is believed to have started in India the late 1800's; it only applied to girls there and is believed to be a "defense" against forced rape.) Still, even /after/ the churches put on that "age limit" in the early 1900's it was easily "gotten around" and still considered a "legit" marriage by both church and gov. just by putting down that the bride/groom was "under age" or a "minor" on the license. There are some churches that note the "marriage age" as between 12 and 14 in the early 1200's though; they only declare specifically invalid marriages below age 7 - yet despite that declaration there are many church validated marriage licenses (even from that particular church) with kids as young as 2 or 3 years old long after that, up until the late 1800's. (Which rather kills the idea of marriage being about "sex" as well... or I sure ******* hope it does anyway.)
(And of course, you realize that is exactly why they defined pedophile as age 11 and below, and why they specifically note that the "adult" must be at least 5 years older than the object of their desire, right? Because if they didn't set the bar that "low" in the 1850's it would label like 90% of the marriages in the world at the time as "pedo marriages" heh) Times change though, and society, quickly followed by gov, and church, change their views on all kinds of stuff - thus the 1929 church declaration of 16 or older unless the parents consent. (By that time parents weren't doing so many arranged marriages, so it was much more about the kido's choice than the parents political/financial arrangements - and of course on the heels of social uproar about little girls being raped in India... - aka there wasn't much bitching about said change by anyone.)
Now, in America, almost from the beginning, we didn't even bother with writing down the ages of the bride/groom so who knows if they were "legal" age. However, there is a late 1600's marriage license issued in the new world with the brides age of 9, another has the grooms age as 4 years old; those are under the English religious rules of course, but there's really no evidence to support a theory that churches in America (as a new country) imposed "consent ages" for "valid" marriages until /after/ the age of consent was established in US law (and of course those ages varied from state to state) so it's not likely that we American's enforced the 1200's church marriage guidelines of 12-14 years old any more than those in Europe did (specifically Wales, Britian, Scotland as I recall that particular churches influence). If we presume that America, like the majority of the rest of the world, followed India's late 1800's social change/uproar regarding the "sexual" age of consent, then we could "guess" that is when the church began to actual "enforce" any kind of legal age of marriage concepts in America. Though it should be noted that even as late as the 2000's we have continued debate about things like "Romeo and Juliet" relationships trying to get around sexual consent and marriage laws alike.
To be clear, it's not that I personally approve of young aged marriages, nor that I think we as a nation should, but rather that /if/ we are going to argue about supposed church "tradition" when it comes to "pedophilia" then let us argue truthfully, instead of avoiding the reality that the "age rules" of "traditional" marriage in the eyes of the church have changed massively over the past few centuries, (and I've really only touched upon the tip of the ice burg for changes of so-called "tradition" within religion.) Thus I feel that using "tradition" as an argument against SSM is uneducated, if not flat out dishonest... If anything, the argument that SSM is going to lead to pedophile marriage would actually be more of a /returning/ to so-called "church" tradition, than /continuing/ the more modern idea of /not/ allowing it...