The way out is being connected to people who can get you out.
White people will often have these connections.
Black people almost never do.
It's about planning ahead; I have a bondsman, and a lawyer. I have a friend who is a shift supervisor at county. And I did a favor for, and maintain a relationship with, a person who is a direct line to an ABoT shotcaller in Huntsville if I ever get sent there and need to call on that.
I'm living pretty clean these days but since when has that been enough to keep a man out of jail?
I'm all about planning ahead.
If you're planning ahead for getting arrested, I'm going out on a limb here and guessing you're not exactly a choir boy.
I'm not.
I'm a free man determined to keep living that way. I leave people alone and I don't hurt anyone that I don't have good cause to. But I don't allow anyone to abuse me or my people either.
Treat me good and I'll treat you better. Treat me bad and I'll treat you worse.
You would not believe how many people hate me and want me thrown in a cage for the rest of my life and/or killed just for that.
You must be a real charmer.
I can be but it's work.... and I'm getting tired of making the effort, the older I get.
I keep to myself and I don't **** with people. If someone has a beef with me,
I sure as hell didn't instigate it.
Have read a lot of your posts and often seem like reasonably normal people. I figured you were on some kind of binge binge of thought last night. Been in positions where I had to call the shots, enforce my will and be what some thought an asshole, but almost never engendered the animosity of those I interacted with as you reflect, mostly passing down plans, policy, course corrections etc, through others, sometimes chosen for people skills that came easier to them, that I had not developed as well. Surely you are not a slumlord super. What kind of business are you in?
Security.
Consulting, instructing, contracting, etc.
And I'm retired Army.
I spend a lot of time telling people things they don't want to hear, and none of them are getting any better at listening and accepting it when I do; it gets really tiresome.
Figures. People that pay to hear what at some level they probably knew but didn't like it when thought it either are a pain in the ass. Best you can really do is give written report and make sure you get the check, whether they make change 1 or not, but you already know that.
People want simple bottom line answers to incredibly complex and nuanced questions, and they get pissy when the best answer I can give is,
"Well, it depends...."
The other response they hate is when I say "No."; a certain type of person will
always attempt to disregard that and keep on with whatever behavior got me involved in the first place, and they will bullshit, cajole, threaten, bluster, lie, or just plain ignore that "No.", and when they do, I know that I'm going to have to listen to a lot of nonsense, and quite possibly have to go hands on, to make them understand that they are
going to accept that "No.", even if I have to write it on a 2x4, and then kick it up their ass sideways.
None of this is particularly fun, which is why I charge $100 an hour for instruction and consultation.
Contracting doesn't pay as well, but it's a steadier income stream, because most people don't want to deal with these people even if they know how, (which a lot don't), so they're happy to have somebody like me who can get it done without the facility getting sued or ending up on the news.