Patriotism = love of country.
I'll accept that definition, even though I do find it a bit simplistic and confining.
So, you ask how much do I love my country?
Perhaps you remember the movie Jerry McGuire. In it, Dorothy says (about Jerry), " I love him. I love him, and I don't care what you think. I love him for the man he wants to be, and I love him for the man he almost is. I love him."
I love my country as much as Dorothy loves Jerry. I love it for what it is - and I love it for what it can be. My country, like my wife, isn't perfect. I overlook her faults (she snores) because I so enjoy her strengths, her contributions, her warmth, her good intentions, and makes damn fine beef stew. She ain't perfect - but she is two things. 1) She is the woman who brings out the best in me, and 2) she is mine.
So it is with my country. I love it despite its faults. I love it for all its strengths, its goals, its vision, and its good intentions. I am clear-eyed and honest about its faults. I recognize the need to help it grow to be all it can be. I recognize that my country represents the best of man's societal evolution to date, and offers the best chance to be all it can be. I recognize that it is not yet perfect, but I dearly believe it is mankind's only hope in the pursuit of that perfection.
I have been fortunate in my life. I spent twenty years in the Air Force, moved to a second career that allowed me to travel extensively, retired early, and have enjoyed traveling to see the world. My count right now is 47 states visited (New England, here I come!), and 21 countries. I've seen the best they have to offer - and I've seen the worst.
Frankly, the best out there doesn't hold a candle to what we have in the US. I speak not of things, of stuff, of big buildings, fancy airports or great highways. I speak of freedom of movement, of gracious people, of beautiful natural wonders, of diversity of view and people and opportunity, and of hope. This is the only country in the world in which who you are, and what you are, and where you are, does not stop you from being who you want to be, what you want to be, and where you want to be.
I can already hear the catcalls and the naysayers. For them, I ask this question in return. Where else do you have the opportunities you have here? Where else do you have a chance to grow? I recognize what you want. You can get it here. You just have to want it more than others don't want you to have it. You just have to be willing to work harder than those who don't want you to have it are willing to work. There are too many examples of success that put the lie to claims of woe. Yes, it is harder for some than others. Yes, there are those who will try to stop you. Yes, it is frustrating. But, none of that means that it can't be done. The choice is simple - you can do it, or you can complain about why you couldn't do it. Each of us picks our own path.