I'll go number by number to address these.
1.) A military member is a government employee, his wife gets government insurance, the exact same thing I'm advocating for. Insurance recognizing marriages, not government. If their government insurance didn't want to cover her if he died than he should have the right to try and purchase private insurance that would.
2.) I want social security done away with.
3.) These same benefits should be given to someone if they're a girlfriend or brother or sister, whomever the owner deems necessary.
4.) Same rights should be given to whomever the homeowner wants to put into place.
5.) If government has such regulations on it's cemetaries and the veteran thinks it's more important to be buried next to his wife than he can choose another cemetary.
6.) This, again, can be provided in private insurance companies or the companies the person works for. These things are choices.
7.) Anyone who's financially dependent on one person in case of a wrongful death should be able to sue if they can make the connection.
8.) I don't see how this is a good thing, if a husband kills someone his wife should testify against him or be punished.
9.) I'm mostly pro-amnesty, marriage isn't important here either.
10.) Again, this can be done within private insurance.
11.) If government doesn't recognize marriage they won't have to recognize divorce. If the couple is worried about potential divorce they should get a pre-nup and government can then be called upon to enforce a contract.
12.) See #11.
Well that was easy, seems like you didn't "think those ones through", I could say that, or I could act like a grown up and say you have a different opinion.
You have a different thought out opinion than my thought out opinion, we just disagree, I'm a small government fiscal conservative so our idealogies likely are very different.