Let me put it this way then. If men think its fine to ask/expect,want a woman to shave knowing what nicks and cuts feel like...but are horrified to do it themselves..... someone in the relationship is an insensitive bastard
"Insensitive Bastard" are probably the two most common words used to describe the vast majority of Men in the world.
Honestly, as I said, I have no issue with triming the hedges, but I don't believe I could ever go to the length of fully shaving what's down there. Then again, as I mentioned earlier, I can't and don't use a straight or safety razor on my face either.
It's just one of those topics that every two people in a relationship really need to work out for themselves. I know what I like the women in my life to do and what I'm willing to do myself. That's definitely NOT a first date topic, though.