It's so ironic that you think I'm going to hell for the non familial consenting adult I'm madly in love with...
Whether you go to hell is up to God. What you do in private and who you do it with is no ones business but you and the other person.
What you want is for societly to condone your behavior and give you sanction of your lifestyle.
A society decides what it considers acceptable and what behavior it will sanction. In a muslim society you would be stoned to death.
The way to resolve this is to have a referendum in each state and then a consittutional amendment to either sanction gay marriage or to deny it. Such an amendment could also address multiple person marriage, relative marriage, etc.
So lets let the people decide and live with the results. OK?