Kooshdakhaa
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Its really not that far fetched. And I'm not talking about your childhood phobia...o stop that.....this may sound off but as child..i was terrified of the mere thought or mention of poltergeists
Well, if I have to take account of every persons neurosis who posts on these forums, I may as well not bother posting at all because I'd not be allowed to say a thing......that is a telling indictment of the mental stability of this forum....o great ..the wind just began blowing....its snowing outside...i had a nightmare and woke up screaming now this...thanks dark
Well, if I have to take account of every persons neurosis who posts on these forums, I may as well not bother posting at all because I'd not be allowed to say a thing......that is a telling indictment of the mental stability of this forum....o great ..the wind just began blowing....its snowing outside...i had a nightmare and woke up screaming now this...thanks dark
But your welcome....................
I am going to try some behavior modification this weekend. Sometimes she acts normally. I will reward her for that. When she acts fearful I will not pay her much attention. To start comforting her at that time just validates for her that there is reason to be fearful. When she's fearful I will just be calm and cool as can be as if everything is just fine. That's how an alpha would act...in control and in charge.
That might sound mean, but actually I think it will be comforting to her. That's what Cesar Milan always says, anyway, you shouldn't coddle them when they're fearful, it just feeds their fear. They want their alpha to be strong and fearless, so I can see why my continual crying for 84 days might be getting to them.
Sounds like something has really frightened him.
We had a vet who said we should scold our dog for being afraid of lightening. We dumped the vet.
Seems to me that comforting him in his fear is a very alpha thing to do. It seems to me to be "parental" and in charge. Either way, that's what I would do. To not comfort him seems cruel to me.
If you discover what caused this, let us know, would you?
No, comforting them in their fear is not an alpha thing to do. Maybe a quick pat, something like that, but no "Ooooh, you poor widdle thing. Come here you poor widdle doggie, are you scared???" etc. etc. That just reinforces their fear.
Alpha's are not necessarily "parental." They are "da boss." And they shoulder much responsibility for their pack. So, when there is danger they must be the strong one. And if there is no real danger, they shouldn't act like there is.
Sometimes alpha's can be very stern, but they are also fair. She needs me to be strong, right now. Doesn't mean I can't cuddle with her, though.
She's not getting worse...and maybe even a little better.
Regardless of how she "seems," if she has bonded with you at all and if she depends on you she is sensitive to your moods -- a characteristic which accounts for the exceptional affinity between humans and canines. While I doubt you are being visited by Greta's ghost I have no doubt this new dog is reacting to your crying moods, which project apprehension as well as a dismal state of mind. The dog probably feels that something bad is about to happen.[...]
Another thing is me...my doberman Greta died 84 days ago today and I've been having crying fits every day since then. I wonder if I'm getting to her. Seems unlikely, she's not all that sensitive or caring about me...as long as she gets fed, she's cool.
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Glad to hear she is doing better. She was just worried the guy was encroaching on her turf, maybe.
Anyway....thanks for letting us know!
Meanwhile....I finally got a visit last night. Just when I had given up and stopped wishing for it..it happened. Not an earthquake either. Karma was on the bed. Cat was outside. Moki under the bed. My chair kept being bumped. Just like it did when Gracie would scrunch under my pc chair to lay under the keyboard drawer. At first, I thought it was Karma. It finally dawned on me that karma was on the other side of the room on the bed. I asked softly "Gracie?" and I put my hand down on the side of my chair and I could swear I felt a warm breath on my wrist. So I didn't say anything more. I just left my hand there...and I smiled. After awhile, the bumping stopped. She finally came to let me know. She was at my feet for a short while, then the chair bumped once more and she was gone.
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