...One of them served in the military during the Vietnam war...
Incorrect.
Serving in the Guard and Reserves during the Vietnam War was a rich man's child's way of weaseling out of dangerous duty during wartime.
This is very well documented, as in, for example, the following NPR article...
International Guard: How The Vietnam War Changed Guard Service
There are tons of others available at your fingertips, courtesy of Google, Bing, etc.
And I have personal knowledge that this is the case.
I was in the Army during the Vietnam War.
In both Basic Training and Advanced Individual Training (AIT) companies of approximately 150 men...
About two thirds were either RA or US - Regular Army volunteers or conscripted draftees - and the remaining one third was a mix of AR and NG - Reserve and Guard - boys.
I - and hundreds of thousands of other RAs and USs who went-in during those times - bunked with ARs and NGs and lived with them for months on end.
ARs and NGs were routinely given a modicum of preferential treatment, they routinely denigrated RAs and USs, and routinely talked about their insulation from duty in Vietnam.
The Federal government was reluctant to activate Reserve and Guard units for duty in 'Nam because it inevitably lessened support for the war, so very few units were sent to 'Nam.
A handful of AR and NG members were individually activated, but virtually all of that handful, only because of a rear-echelon specialty that was in despreate short supply.
The Reserve and Guard served nobly and fiercely in both Iraq and Afghanistan, but, by then, it was not their father's Guard and Reserve, which had been a draft-dodger haven.
Don't even
TRY to tell me what I know from long and bitter personal experience.
During the Vietnam War, the Guard and Reserve were used to dodge the draft, and to avoid duty in Vietnam.
Period.
...One of them got authorized college deferments...
Translation: dodging the draft by staying in school when his country needed him.
...and a physical deferment from the draft board Doctor...
Only after his academic excuses were exhausted; that's right up there with paying some medical ethics castaway to write you a note for an un-needed handicap sticker.
...and one of them got college deferments and then lied to avoid serving...[/QUOTE
Yep. He acted like a piece of shit, too. But that has nothing to do with your boy's own acting like a piece of shit - a piece of cowardly shit - during wartime.
...Would you consider a volunteer who enlisted in the Navy or the Air Force and was stationed in the US or in Europe during Vietnam a draft dodger?