There's two wrongs here and it doesn't make one right.
Why in the hell are there multiple acts of abuse in a family? The most there should be is one...if the one being abused walks out. Stick around, you are gulty of being stupid.
One act of abuse is shame on them. Two...shame on me. Divorce the bastard!
Abuse is taking away power emotionally and physically .
An abused person is beat down by the manipular .. and are scared to death to leave or rock the boat.
This is why abuse hotlines, abuse shelters are there to help them come to terms with taking their power back.. Some try to leave and are murdered or dragged through hell in court .
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Feeling sorry for the victim doesn't help them. Teach them to stand up and be strong. Do the right thing.
It is much more complicated than that..they are victims.
My mom died by the hands of an abuser in 1976
And this happened to some good friends of mine.. I watched the boy grow up.
That’s sad, but doesn’t implicate everyone just because it happened to you
I studied this, and have my state board license.. I worked to get abused pregnant women off the streets who were addicted , and most had healthy babies..they finished their GED's and got on their feet.
Yeah I admit, I can be co-dependant and want to bring everyone home with me.. But it is not just black and white.
Every single family is dysfunctional, one way or another..to point the finger at an abused person and judging them is Fk-ed Up..