Would eHarmony hooked you up with your spouse or significant other?

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    My mother constantly complains that my dad doesn't take her anywhere. He's my father, I love him, but he for some reason he never learned to appreciate traveling. So I was thinking that as a joke that I would post my mother's profile on eHamony and see what kind of men would be matched up with her. I realized in time that this would be opening a Pandora's Box so I abandoned the idea.

    But then my husband and I were pondering if a dating or mating service would have hooked us up to each other.

    We're from different ethnic backgrounds and religions. He's significantly older than me. He is meticulous to a fault, and is quite the planner.

    He's very honest and can be quite cutting at times. I tend to be "nicer" relative to him. I'll give people the benefit of the doubt, while he tends to be more of a cynic.

    We do have lots in common like similar childhood. We both are voracious readers and like to debate. We've been told by people that our standards are too high and have a tendency to be judgemental.

    What do you think? If each of you wrote a profile about yourself and listed what you wanted in a mate, do you think you would have been matched with your significant other or spouse?
     
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    I think you just described my wife and I though she's only 4 years younger than me! I am the quiet one, she's talkative. I can't imagine being married to someone as quiet as me, I'd always be suspicious! When I do voice my concerns she says I can be "harsh" which is probably true. We are both of different ethnicities also. We have the same political views and like to debate as much as you and your hubby do. I'm meticulous, plan and prioritize endlessly. She is very outgoing, has friends in all 50 states probably and is on the phone constantly. I have very few friends but I'm not anti-social. I just prefer activities where I can be alone and concentrate, like building R/C model airplanes, guitar or reading. Since we moved here to Pennsylvania I've been thinking of getting into hunting, the ultimate loner sport huh? :D

    We've been together for 10 years and I think we're a perfect match.

    My advice to you: Stay away from the dating sites if you want to remain married. Don't compare what you have to what you might have. The grass is never greener on the other side of the fence.

    If you having marital problems, discuss them directly with your spouse even if it is painful to do so.

    And do it now! :D
     
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    Until eHarmony includes smell-o-linking, it won't be a really effective way of finding a mate, I think.​

    Woman, or so I am informed, unconciously choose mates whose immune antibodies are very much different than theirs.

    They do this, we are informed, unconsciously, but based on how we men smell.

    This theory has been tested in clinical situations where woman are allowed to smell mens tshirts and based on nothing but that, they are asked to select which man they'd prefer to be with.

    The outcome?

    Woman choose the t-shirts of men whose immunological systems where most unlike theirs.

    This probably explains why there are so many songs written from a male perspecitve asking the musical question..

    Is she really going out with?
    Is she really going to take him home tonight?

    This leads me to think we need news adage to describe the mating game. I propose the following:​

    Girls don't make passes
    At men with bad gasses

    and​

    Fair ladies hearts aren't won
    by
    men faint of farts
     
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    I'm going to agree eith editec


    I was a single mom for about 6 years after I divorced my husband of 12 years (nazi bastid). When I became single I was about 35 and times had changed and the computer was suddenly a big instrument in meeting people. I went into a chat room on aol that was specific for my area and from there I met lots of women friends and men friends who were in the same place as me. We would talk in a chatroom or in im's all week long and once a week the lot of us would meet at one particular bar and it was than that you got to meet the people whom you were talking to. The room grew as time went on and the bar we went to kept moving to accomodate all of us!

    I learned one very important thing from this experience. No matter how well you get along with someone online. No matter how well your brains mesh or your sense of humor is similar or your conversation is magical......none of it means a thing.

    It's all about physical body chemistry.

    I can't tell you how many men I met online and got along with that when I met in person I could not ever bring myself to kiss. And its not like I was shallow and did not give these men a chance. I would date them and go out to dinner and spend time talking in person to men I got along with in online conversations......but amazingly enough, I never ever felt compelled to even kiss 99% of the men who I got along with in online conversation.

    I met my husband when I walked into a bar with a friend and I saw this intoxicated guy singing karaoke "Sweet Child of Mine" and in two seconds, without ever talking to him.....I just knew he was the one lol.
     
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    sadly no, I would prolly be one of the ones who got rejected from eharmony...he he
     
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    Not to derail your thread but my lord if you're nicer than your husband I'd hate to run into your husband.....he must be a real asshole :lol:
     
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    Policitcal chics a sweetheart ! (just my opinion) but then I pretty much like everyone on this board with only a few exceptions....
     
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    well I'm just basing it on her treatment of people who disagree with her politically. I'm sure she's very nice when not talking politics :)
     
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    Your nice too Silence
     
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    <----nicest guy in here in my opinion
     
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