Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by dmp, Jul 27, 2004.
Are women who say they don't want kids lying? Defective? Honest? Scared?
I depends on the situation. My wife tells people she doesn't want kids. But is isn't true. She is just too old now and after about $150,000 and 10 years of trying, we have given up. She tells people she doesn't "want" them because she looks very young and she doesn't want to go over the whole story about trying as that leads to the discussion of emotions, etc.
But some really just don't want them for whatever reason. Maybe they were molested as a child and they are scared that their child will experience the same by somebody else or maybe they are just too tied up into their careers. There are too many reasons "why".
DANGER DANGER------YOU ARE ENTERING A ZONE THAT YOU MAY NEVER RETURN FROM !! A WOMAN"S MIND !!!
So I'm getting the sense the attitude of at least a few members of the board is something like:
"All (+/-) women DO want kids - not all 'can' have kids. The women in the +/- category would likely say they 'don't' for various reasons; even if they are lying to themselves or others"
The answer is the same to these questions as they are for men... there's no difference.
I would imagine that the answers to those questions are as numerous as there are people to answer them. Also, I bet that the answers to those questions will change throughout a person's life. What's true at 20 isn't the same as what's true at 30 or 40 or 50.
I'm very sorry FF. People are nosey & insensitive. This is a very personal matter. If the person isn't a close friend, which would know the reason, all your wife has to say is, "Why do you ask?" Let the uncomfortable feeling lay on the other person. Then all she has to say is that is a decision between the two of you, & doesn't feel like discussing it. She owes NO ONE an answer.
you know, this topic pisses me off a lot. insurance would not pay for IVF and such, nor would they pay even for the birth control pills my wife had to take during "preparation". yet the insurance company happily mailed us a brochure on their "abortion" coverage.
made me sick.
Boy would I have had a field day with those people then. Anyone who is that insensitive deserves to be put in their place...I agree with Joz...no one owes anyone an explanation of why they do or don't want kids.
My oldest son, after losing his brother not long ago, told me he didn't think he'd ever have children. He's been married now, 2 years, and have just announced they are pregnant after TRYING. This is big step for him. He has healed enough to want what is natural, to take the chance.
I believe WE ARE MADE to want to procreate, The sex drive is quite strong. But choosing not to have children, I agree with Moi, can have reasons innumerable. So when they say they don't want children, most likely they don't....for whatever reason. And sometimes the choice is made for us. (And I don't mean Divine intervention.)
Me, too. Probably for different reasons.
You have 'children' getting pregnant & aborting, children are born to parents who don't really want them & never did. And here you are.....
I can't help but look around at some of these mean kids. But where is mine? He was a good boy.
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