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Spoken like an immature individual who is clueless about what I am talking about. Congratulations. Parents will convince themselves of anything to make themselves believe that what they are doing is for the best.Unless there are extenuating circumstances, such as those like Chris mentioned, my philosophy is sound. ....If he wants the child? And if there is a dispute over who should have custody? Absolutely.
The party that is at fault for the break down of the family SHOULD NOT be the one that raises the child ....
You're not thinking.
That's not a philosophy, not sound, and not logical.
You are trying to equate "initiating divorce proceedings" and "fault." Doesn't work that way.I know it doesn't work that way, I know western society has not constructed the ideal, it is focused on the individual, not the family and society. I was just telling you how it is supposed to work if you want a healthy society instead of a sick one.If he wants the child? And if there is a dispute over who should have custody? Absolutely.
The party that is at fault for the break down of the family SHOULD NOT be the one that raises the child and instills the moral and ethical value that family is worthless. Instead, let the parent that has respect for the sacredness of the family raise the child.
If this happens, the rate of divorce, and the respect and sacredness with which people hold the institution of the family vis-à-vis the worth of an individual's happiness will come back into balance. Nothing is more important than how we raise an as yet undeveloped human mind.
Yet, some of these juvenile adults that aren't completely happy and decide to have children somehow think their own happiness is more important? Bullshit.
I used to babysit for a guy who had custody of all four of his kids because his wife ran off on them with some guy she met online. All of them girls too. Can you believe that nut? Another boy I babysat for, same situation except his mother was an unstable druggy. Poor kids.
However, I don't agree that the father should automatically get custody. That depends entirely upon the situation. Maybe he abused his wife or something. Maybe he was a drunk or a druggy.
Well, naturally, extenuating circumstances like addiction, or abuse not with standing.
However, even in these instances, don't you think the wife and mother should at least first make one attempt to get into therepy/counseling with the father to save the family unit? Every individual only gets one shot in life, only one mother, one father, and one childhood. Don't you think people just give up too easy today? Doesn't everyone just want to have instant gratification and instant easy life?
For instance, is it alright of the mother to just leave if the father gets a debilitating and slowly progressing disease that will make it so she can not be upwardly mobile? Our society values wealth and material items.
If after they marry and have one child, the father gets something like MS, is that now grounds for divorce? What about a severe anxiety or depressive disorder? Those can be the underlying cause to that substance abuse you were talking about. It then becomes very easy for the other parent to just cheat, and then walk out, doesn't it? Is that self centered behavior good for the future self-esteem, and identity of the children, or would it be better to see the one parent help the other though such a time of hardship? What usually happens?
Does the child see the mother and father giving each other unconditional love, no matter what problems arise in the relationship, or do folks bail at the first sign of problems?
That depends on the people involved. This is not an ideal world and people are far from being perfect.
A sick society is one that would force people who don't like one another to be together. If the parents aren't happy, then the children aren't happy either. Sometimes divorce IS the best solution.
Divorce is never the best solution for the children.