Why do some men enjoy hurting women?

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    Why do some men enjoy hurting women? The sort of man who tells a woman he loves her, but repeatedly does things he knows will upset and hurt her.

    What is it with those men, why are they like that and why do those women put up with that sort of thing even though it brings them nothing but hurt?
     
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    Not sure. I've witnessed quite a few toxic relationships. They almost always end eventually.

    If it's a cheating scenario, she should go her own way.
     
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    Why do men do that!?!

    Because it is usually the upbringing that causes this. Most men see a man they look up to and mimic the bad behavior. It could be a father, grandfather, uncle or some neighborhood twat of a man that they looked up to and believe abusing women is something that is correct.

    A lot of time it also is because of insecurities and maybe a little penis and fearing the opposite sex will realize they lack the manhood to satisfy the opposite.

    As for women it is also the cycle of abuse that is usually pass down from mother to daughter.

    My Uncle that raised me slapped my Aunt and next thing I saw how a man looked like when being used as a mop.

    All this is my opinion when it come to the abuse you were asking about ...
     
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    Why do you ask?
     
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    As the saying goes, "You can't love someone until you love yourself".

    OTOH, someone who says one thing and does another is not to be trusted. A partial answer to the OP question is another question: "Why do some women stay with abusive men?" Fear of being alone?
     
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    I've known two different kinds. One is just the player that never pretends to give a shit and is just trying to bed the next babe. The second kind actually seems to crave a one on one relationship but ends up totally breaking the women's heart and doesn't seem bothered by it at all. To me that is almost Sociopathic.
     
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    Just curious, the women should walk away and they don't, maybe it's a form of Stockholm Syndrome they have.
     
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    Emotional violence. It's not gender specific.
     
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    A man does that as a way of control. He demeans her to diminish her self-worth so that she feels that she isn't deserving of love. Thus, when he loves her, he feels that she is more likely to stay with him.

    Ultimately, he abuses her because the man is insecure. Deep down, he thinks that he isn't good enough for her. He feels that she will leave him if someone "better" comes along.

    It's an unhealthy relationship.

    What that man doesn't understand is that rather than tearing her down, the more he builds her up, the more likely she is to stay with him. The more he compliments her and loves her and builds her self-esteem, the more the bonds between them strengthen.
     
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    I'm guessing depending on the situation, sometimes an emasculated man will seek more power in the relationship that way,
    some fear being the dumpee, so to save
    ego misstreat and seek the upper hand.
    Others might have hostility towards women from former relationships with women or even through a tarnished relationship with their mother. Those are some of many reasons people power play in relationships including reaction to something the woman does to make an insecure man lack trust or stability in the relationship.
     

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