See your talking rationalization. I'm talking human instinct. In the end human instinct always wins. All the rationalization goes out the door. Its the reason why positive images are so important for Black people. All you hear is negativity all day and it wears on you unless you have those positive images to counteract the negative ones.I disagree. I have learned from some of the best people persons on the planet and one common thing they have all taught me is that no matter what people say they are affected by negativity. They may deal with it differently but they are affected. Basically I was taught by these very successful people that everything you say is either a pin prick or a pat on the back to the person you are saying it to. You may get numbed to being constantly pricked but its not something you are ever going to welcome or see as a pat on the back. I see this concept reflected daily and use it to my advantage.You still get upset. You just have a alternative way of dealing with those feelings now. Those feelings dont change just because you grew up. The claim seems to be that Chinese people dont get offended. Why are the people I know that are Chinese offended? Are you saying its because they havent grown up?Because words only have the power you give them. When I was a kid I used to get upset when people would make Asian jokes at me. Then I grew up.
Actually you DO grow out of being offended when you learn about the lack of honor and principles of those accusing you of being inferior or damaged. Jew baiters used to be disturbing to me until I had my encounters with them first hand. Now I just pity them.. They can't think or reason. They have comprehension and honesty issues. You LEARN they are nothing to fear..
If what they are alleging is beyond common sense and reason -- what does it matter? It's really their faulty thinking and biases. Do the Joos own my Govt? Of course not. It's ludicrous.. It's cult thinking. And I cannot respect any of that. They have NO valid arguments. How can you possibly "be affected" by their beliefs?
YOU know the strengths and weaknesses of your clan. You can honest about. Maybe even JOKE about the "weaknesses".. PROTECTING "your people" REGARDLESS of their faults is also intellectual dishonesty tho. No matter which group you fall into..
I don't think either one of us lacks self-confidence or esteem. My instinct to pity the haters. Because they are morally and mentally flawed now that I've "met them". Don't NEED to protect "the image" of my clan.. In fact it's healthy to ADMIT the flaws of my clan. And you can only do that when you don't operate on the fear instinct.