I agreeHere's some more of the book So You Want To Talk About Race.I agree. It isn't always regarding race either. People will hire who they want, regardless of the laws. Some won't hire blacks, Mexican's, orientals, women, etc.Sorry, I had to go out for a while. Like I've often said, although laws may be currently on the books that make certain acts of discrimination illegal, the implementation of those laws are not always carried through and so many things that used to be done openly are now done quietly and are done in such a way to be nearly impossible to prove in a court of law.Hope nobody minds me jumping in here. I would like to share a couple stories I heard last weekend. One older black lady told about when she was a child and her mother did domestic work for white people. Her mom always talked about how wonderful the family was to her and how much she appreciated that they let her work for them and treated her decently. Her mother did not know, however that when she went along to work with her and spent time with the white children, they teased her mercilessly and called her names. She put up with all most daily dehumanization, but never told her mother. Now she is a woman in her 80's and to this very day, cries over those painful memories.
Another older black lady cried as she told about a woman she considered her second mother. One day she wondered why this woman had no children of her own. When she asked, she was told that when she was young she had some female problems and went to the doctor. They did an operation and told her she would be fine. But for years after that she tried to conceive and never could. Finally, a doctor told her that the previous doctor had done a hysterectomy and never told her. He said that it was common practice back then in that state to control the black population. You could feel and see the pain this woman experienced to this very day.
Emotional trauma, I believe, can be passed from generation to generation just like inherited diseases. Painful memories and even pain from stories that happened generations ago, still linger. There can never be enough financial restitution to take away emotional pain. There can be at least partial healing when folks are given the opportunity to unburden themselves and are received with grace and understanding. There can be at least partial healing, like there was in the room where we gathered together, when folks hugged, cried together and offered apologies for the way these women had been mistreated.
There are countless similar stories whether or not you believe them and whether or not you think the pain is real. I do not think our nation has done nearly enough to right our wrongs.
Jump in any time delores.
Of course there is no more racism Race is never considered even though blacks are unemployed at double the rate of whites, it just means that all the blacks who did not get hired were unqualified. It's not about it always being about anything it is that it happens at all.
Racism by whites is a major problem in this nation. Denying it allows it to continue.
"No discussion of racism is just about one incident for people of color, because we cannot divorce ourselves from the past pain of systematic racism, or the future repercussion of current abuse. When people of color talk about systematic racism, far more than feelings have been hurt and far more than feelings are at stake. When people of color are talking about racism, no matter the immediate subject, they are also always talking about lifelong abuse at the hands of society.
If you've been privileged enough to not suffer from the cumulative effects of systemic racism, and are therefore able to look at racially charged situations one at a time and then let it go, please recognize that very few people of color are able to enter into discussions on racism with the same freedom. When people of color speak out about systemic racism, they are opening up all of that pain and fear and anger to you. They are not doing this because they enjoy it. We do this because we have to, because systemic racism is killing us. And yes, that pain and fear and anger will sometimes show in our words and our actions. But to see all that pain and how we fight still after entire lifetimes of struggle - and then tell us to be more polite is just plain cruel. To refuse to listen to someone's cries for justice and equality until the request comes in a language you feel comfortable with is a way of asserting your dominance over them in the situation."
I think we as white people have a lot to learn.