Sky Dancer
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A few thoughts this morning. I asked a friend of mine why it was that some gay men thought that NAMBLA should march with us in the Gay Pride Parade. (She had been married to a gay man who came out in her marriage, and then she came out as a lesbian after him. They remained married to each other for 20 years and were close friends). She responded that it was the experience of some gay men, that when they were sexually introduced in their teens by older teens or young men, it had been a positive and non-exploitive experience.
I remember seeing the movie, The Summer of '42 about a teenage boy's summer vacation and his falling in love with an older married woman. In the movie, the boy comes calling to the young woman, and she is newly widowed. She has just heard that her husband was killed in the war. She's been drinking and is overcome by grief. She and the boy dance together, and they end up making love. It is a one night stand, the woman is gone the next day, and the boy has had this as his first experience.
I've heard some heterosexual men say with pride, that an older woman introduced them to sex when they were a teen or a young man.
I realize this topic is controversial and I'm pretty conservative with my religious values. Some religions think that 'being gay' is a sin. Others think that the sex acts between lesbians and gay men are what's sinful.
In my tradition and lineage of Buddhism, being gay and having a monogamous relationship is not sexual misconduct.
Here is the third precept on sexual responsibility for Buddhists:
"Aware of the suffering caused by sexual misconduct, I undertake to cultivate responsibility and learn ways to protect the safety and integrity of individuals, couples, families, and society. I am determined not to engage in sexual relations without love and a long- term commitment. To preserve the happiness of myself and others, I am determined to respect my commitments and the commitments of others. I will do everything in my power to protect children from sexual abuse and to prevent couples and families from being broken by sexual misconduct."
I remember seeing the movie, The Summer of '42 about a teenage boy's summer vacation and his falling in love with an older married woman. In the movie, the boy comes calling to the young woman, and she is newly widowed. She has just heard that her husband was killed in the war. She's been drinking and is overcome by grief. She and the boy dance together, and they end up making love. It is a one night stand, the woman is gone the next day, and the boy has had this as his first experience.
I've heard some heterosexual men say with pride, that an older woman introduced them to sex when they were a teen or a young man.
I realize this topic is controversial and I'm pretty conservative with my religious values. Some religions think that 'being gay' is a sin. Others think that the sex acts between lesbians and gay men are what's sinful.
In my tradition and lineage of Buddhism, being gay and having a monogamous relationship is not sexual misconduct.
Here is the third precept on sexual responsibility for Buddhists:
"Aware of the suffering caused by sexual misconduct, I undertake to cultivate responsibility and learn ways to protect the safety and integrity of individuals, couples, families, and society. I am determined not to engage in sexual relations without love and a long- term commitment. To preserve the happiness of myself and others, I am determined to respect my commitments and the commitments of others. I will do everything in my power to protect children from sexual abuse and to prevent couples and families from being broken by sexual misconduct."
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