ABikerSailor
Diamond Member
You know......if she can make me think and laugh, and I feel loved in her presence, that's really all that matters.
Not really even concerned about the looks.
If he can make me laugh and make great love with me, I am his as long as those last. I am a woman and it takes a man with a great wit, passion and sense of humor for me to have chemistry. Love it when those three forces come together. My favorite former husband was the best. Gold Medal...Olympic!! lol Nothing that hot lasts forever and that is fine. Love it while it lasts and design your next adventure. There always is one for those like me. I seek.
Mermaid*
Still cycle, take fairly good care of myself, have a full head of hair and a 29 inch waist.
I also watch a lot of comedy, as well as educational shows and an obscene amount of news (4-6 hours/weekday), and am reasonably intelligent.
But........most important, I know how to say "chartreuse". What that means, is that one day, I was having a discussion with my aunt, and she told me it was greenish yellow, and I told her it was more of a reddish hue.
We discussed this for quite a bit, and finally looked it up. She was right, and I was wrong. Whenever I have a disagreement with someone that looks like it's at an impasse, I simply say "chartreuse" and we walk away without hurt feelings. Works good in relationships of any kind by the way.
I also have only 3 laws of relationships.
1. One plus one equals three. I'm independent and capable of doing for myself, with myself and by myself. She's gotta be the same way, and together, we create a third thing that need both of us, i.e. the relationship. That's why one plus one equals three.
2. A relationship is not a 50/50 deal..........it's 2 people combining to form 100 percent every day. On some days, I'm only capable of 10, she's gotta be willing and able to come up with the other 90 percent, other times, it's reversed, but it's important that the relationship makes 100 percent every day.
I mean........if the wife is sick and incapable of taking care of the kids and cooking, does the husband stop bringing home the bacon? No. He takes up the slack, knowing that one day it's gonna be him in her position, and he wants her to take up the slack as well, so that the whole unit can keep going.
3. A relationship can survive on 51 percent love and 49 percent lust. If the ratio hits 50/50 or goes 49 percent love and 51 percent lust, that is the point where it has problems. And, if you want to know the difference between the 2, ask one question and answer it honestly........do I truly enjoy the person, or, do I enjoy myself through the instrumentality of that person?
If you truly enjoy the person, it doesn't matter what they do or don't have, you're just happy to be with them.
If you enjoy yourself through the instrumentality OF that person, like say........money, looks, position in society?
If you lose your cash, then the person with you because of the instrument of your money leaves as well.
If you lose your looks or position? Usually, same deal.
But......there's gotta be something that attracts you to them, otherwise you wouldn't be over there talking and trying to get to know them.
Most good relationships are at a 60/40 or a 70/30 split.