I think there are so many times, especially when we get older and our "Polly Anna" glasses are pretty beat up, we don't have all the stamina or elasticity that we used to have, and we no longer are convinced that we are immortal, that those days that there seems no way out do come around now and then. There isn't time to get it done. It isn't up to our expectations. A relationship seems too damaged to be repaired. We simply don't want to do it and feel guilty. We have a health problem that seems overwhelming. We are distressed with or afraid for a loved one. Etc.
But in the end, worry is the most useless emotion assigned to humankind, and being miserable about what we cannot change isn't far behind. I say grieve when grief is appropriate, be angry when there is something legitimately to be angry about and we can do something about it, give proper respect to conscience when we have done somebody wrong, and care about and send healing vibes to folks like Kiki who are hurting.
Otherwise assign thirty minutes a week to wallow in as much worry, self pity, frustration, resentment, etc. etc. etc. as we can pack into that thirty minutes and get it out of our system, then get on with life.
But in the end, worry is the most useless emotion assigned to humankind, and being miserable about what we cannot change isn't far behind. I say grieve when grief is appropriate, be angry when there is something legitimately to be angry about and we can do something about it, give proper respect to conscience when we have done somebody wrong, and care about and send healing vibes to folks like Kiki who are hurting.
Otherwise assign thirty minutes a week to wallow in as much worry, self pity, frustration, resentment, etc. etc. etc. as we can pack into that thirty minutes and get it out of our system, then get on with life.