Partisanship and kids' friends?

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  1. Caligirl
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    So my kid goes to a birthday party this weekend for a new best friend. This is a kid that is new to our school this year. The new best friend asks my daughter to sleepover, and she does, and I pick her up the next morning and at pickup it looks like everyone is happy and having a good time.

    So today (Tuesday) I learn that this friend is now ignoring my daughter, yesterday and today, and pretending the sleepover never happened. It is very weird. These girls have known each other pretty well through the school year, been friends all along, and seemed to have a good time with each other - my daughter is the *only* kid from school that this kid wanted to invite to the party.

    The only thing I could think may have happened to change this kid's behavior to my daughter, was that the parents realized I was not of their political views and have pressured their daughter to drop my daughter as a friend. They had nothing but kind words for my daughter previously, and so it is weird to think that they would be so immature (or something) as to take such a reaction.

    Do you think that people with extreme poliotical views are likely to encourage their kids to avoid kids from families with other political views? Is it hard for republicans to be around democrats now moreso than four years ago?

    I am very confused. And feeling very hurt for this unecessary treatment of my daughter. Maybe it is not political or parental at all. Any thoughts?
     
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    call them up and find out the facts.
     
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    That is so weird!

    How old is your daughter?

    Did you ask her if anything happened at the sleep over? Did the friend do/say something she is embarrassed about, or did your daughter? (tho we know our kids never do anything wrong....:eusa_angel:)

    I can't imagine adults that would not let their children play with others because their mommy voted for McCain or Obama. That is just too immature and freaky! If that's the reason, maybe they should go back to middle school!
     
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    that was plan A but my daughter said she definitely did not want me to do that, so I am starting with plan B (you guys) and C (an email to the teacher) and D (a phone call to a different, evangelical, friend to ask in general how the evangelicals in town are feeling about democrats these days) ....

    ... these are plans which I am doing without trying to obtain clearance from my daughter first. :) I hope to return to plan A..... in a couple days... when I have permission.....:)
     
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    I know - I know. But I was also surprised a few months ago (pre-election) to learn that this girl's mom "hates" obama. Hates! that's pretty immature too, I'd say.

    Yeah... I know, I mean if it is the reason, then better off without that in my kid's life, but I do like to think that we can be friends with people we disagree with......

    My daughter is 12. I asked all the questions, to the point that she got very frustrated with me. It is possible that something will come out at bedtime tonight.
     
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    good plan---step on you're daughters toes and you'll be kicked out of the house. :lol:
    I think there are too may possiblities for the snubbing right now to come to any conclusions.
     
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    Please, politics should NEVER interfere with children's friendships. If those parents are that shallow, I feel sorry for their daughter!


    Though, it could be for another reason, and your daughter doesn't want to tell you (but she may later) Trust me, I know, remember mini-Echo is 13! She is pretty open and honest with me, but sometimes would rather keep social "spats" she has had to herself....but then eventually comes to me for advice.
     
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    Number one, I would think your daughter HAS to have an idea what happened. Did you grill your daugther about what they talked about? That should give you an idea. (What gave you the impression it's over politics?)

    Number two... ahem... it's over a boy.
     
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    I know how you feel. Nothing hurts us more when our own children are hurt. It is hard to believe that adults would poison the relationship of the children.

    It is also entirely possible that the girlfriend is acting just like a child. One moment liking your daughter very much and the next moment finding some reason not to like her.

    I am curious to know how your daughter's girlfriend's parents became aware how different your political views were and how heated the discussion was.
     
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    Do'h!


    Duh, the boy thing.....good call Pale Rider!
     

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