I just don't get this. I sent out the invitations 3 weeks in advance, with specific directions and my cell phone # in case of any questions. I knew my mom and dad could not come cuz my mom had strep and my dad is on heavy meds from injuring himself at work, so he could not drive. My grandparents are 3 hours away because they are settling their new home that was just put in. They are retiring next week, and moving, so I knew they wouldn't be able to make it well in advance, and I understood why. But the rest of my relatives that I sent invitations to, NO ONE called, no one gave any response. The ceremony and reception were about an hour from the area where we live, but it is only an hour. It is actually less for a few of them because they live near me. the reason that I had it where I did was the pastor that married me & DH has his church up there, and he is a very good friend of my family. My IL's have a lakehome 15 minutes from the church, so it was convenient to have the reception there. I am so hurt that no one showed up. Even if they had other plans, no one let me know. My aunts & uncles (dad's brother & sister, and their kids(my cousins), and their kids' kids(my 2nd cousins) ) tend not to RSVP, then show up anyway, so we assumed everyone was going to show up, since no one called us saying they weren't. They never RSVP'd for my wedding either, but they still showed. DH and I bought $120 worth of food for yesterday, which we should not have spent the money on since we are saving for the closing of our first house, and we are strapped for money already. Even if everyone would have called and said they would not come, at least we would not have spent that much on food. I had my ILs invite the neighbors in the lake area whom they knew, to help eat all the food that we bought. I am so hurt over this, and I am conemplating whether or not I will even speak to them again. I know it sounds petty, but I and DH go to all their functions, no matter the distance. They couldn't come to mine? DH is so mad that he doesn't want to invite them to anything anymore, including holidays. I feel like doing the same thing, but I also feel that this would be over-reacting. I just feel so shafted and hurt. This was a big deal for me & DH, as well as my ILs. A batism may have been insignificant to them, but I went to all my family's ceremonies for it. I don't know what to do. I feel like my events are not important enough for them to make any effort, so I want to not invite them to anything anymore, nor will I show up at any of their functions. I rarely see them anyway, but I do miss them. My uncle lives in the house I lived in with my grandma before she died. I was very close with my cousins before my grandma died, and after she did, we rarely saw each other. I miss them, but I am torn with this. Any advice?