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Multiple Lovers Without Jealousy - The Atlantic
Had no idea how long this was when I began reading it so didn't get even halfway but it has some interesting info.
"Monogamy quickly became the normâand social norms influence our psychology. The process of adhering to social rules and punishing rule violators tickles the reward circuits of our brains. Some studies suggest that each time you think to yourself that polyamory is icky, an oxytocin molecule gets its wings...
...The practice of âswingingâ first became common among American military members during World War II, with the tacit understanding that the wives of the men who did not survive would be taken in by those who did...
...Perhaps most obviously, people who have permission to âcheatââthat is, through a planned, non-monogamous arrangementâare more likely to use condoms and have frequent STI tests than clandestine cheaters are...
Terri Conley, a professor of psychology and womenâs studies at the University of Michigan who studies polyamory, has analyzed a sample of 1,700 monogamous individuals, 150 swingers, 170 people in open relationships, and 300 polyamorous individuals for a forthcoming study. She said that while people in âopen relationshipsâ tend to have lower sexual satisfaction than their monogamous peers, people who described themselves as âpolyamorousâ tended to have equal or higher levels of sexual satisfaction.
Whatâs more, polyamorous people donât seem to be plagued by monogamous-style romantic envy. Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist at Champlain College in Vermont has found that polyamorous people tend to experience less overall jealousy, even in situations that would drive monogamous couples to Othello-levels of suspicion. "It turns out that, hey, people are not reacting with jealousy when their partner is flirting with someone else," Holmes told LiveScience.
Sheff agreed. âI would say they have lower-than-average jealousy,â she said. âPeople who are very jealous generally donât do polyamory at all.â
Conley found that jealousy is âmuch higherâ among monogamous pairs than non-monogamous ones. Polyamorous people also seemed to trust each other more. âFor a long time Iâve been interested in whether monogamous relationships are all theyâre cracked up to be,â Conley said.
Her findings, like Holmesâ and Sheffâs, are preliminary and limited. But if they hold up, it could mean that at least in some ways, polyamory is a more humane way to love."
Tons more. Surprisingly long article.
Had no idea how long this was when I began reading it so didn't get even halfway but it has some interesting info.
"Monogamy quickly became the normâand social norms influence our psychology. The process of adhering to social rules and punishing rule violators tickles the reward circuits of our brains. Some studies suggest that each time you think to yourself that polyamory is icky, an oxytocin molecule gets its wings...
...The practice of âswingingâ first became common among American military members during World War II, with the tacit understanding that the wives of the men who did not survive would be taken in by those who did...
...Perhaps most obviously, people who have permission to âcheatââthat is, through a planned, non-monogamous arrangementâare more likely to use condoms and have frequent STI tests than clandestine cheaters are...
Terri Conley, a professor of psychology and womenâs studies at the University of Michigan who studies polyamory, has analyzed a sample of 1,700 monogamous individuals, 150 swingers, 170 people in open relationships, and 300 polyamorous individuals for a forthcoming study. She said that while people in âopen relationshipsâ tend to have lower sexual satisfaction than their monogamous peers, people who described themselves as âpolyamorousâ tended to have equal or higher levels of sexual satisfaction.
Whatâs more, polyamorous people donât seem to be plagued by monogamous-style romantic envy. Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist at Champlain College in Vermont has found that polyamorous people tend to experience less overall jealousy, even in situations that would drive monogamous couples to Othello-levels of suspicion. "It turns out that, hey, people are not reacting with jealousy when their partner is flirting with someone else," Holmes told LiveScience.
Sheff agreed. âI would say they have lower-than-average jealousy,â she said. âPeople who are very jealous generally donât do polyamory at all.â
Conley found that jealousy is âmuch higherâ among monogamous pairs than non-monogamous ones. Polyamorous people also seemed to trust each other more. âFor a long time Iâve been interested in whether monogamous relationships are all theyâre cracked up to be,â Conley said.
Her findings, like Holmesâ and Sheffâs, are preliminary and limited. But if they hold up, it could mean that at least in some ways, polyamory is a more humane way to love."
Tons more. Surprisingly long article.