"What Does It Mean to be a Man?" By Robert Jensen "...The list of understandings of masculinity that men routinely impose on each other is quite different. Here, being a man means not being a woman or gay, seeing relationships as fundamentally a contest for control, and viewing sex as the acquisition of pleasure from a woman. Of course thats not all men are, but it sums up the dominant, and very toxic, conception of masculinity with which most men are raised in the contemporary United States. Its not an assertion about all men or all possible ideas about masculinity, but a description of a pattern." "Because the questions flow from their own observations and were not imposed by me, the discomfort is intensified. Its difficult to shrug this off as just one more irrelevant exercise in abstract theory by a pontificating professor. Whatever the conclusion the students reach, the question is on the table in a way thats difficult to dismiss." Robert Jensen: Masculine, Feminine or Human?