Inspired by Mr.P's comment elsewhere on the board... Lights on or lights off? Which do you prefer whilst being romantic/intimate/whatever w/ your lover. If i had a lover, and we were to get our freak on, I'd say, leave the lights on, down low. Obviously candle light/fire light is preferred, dim colour lights add a LOT to the event, imo. - as long as i don't have to see myself, I'm good though...so no obvious, large mirrors.