This is the kind of post that scares me. If mudwhistle is a parent, his kids are going to be burried in therapy bills.
With my luck they'll buy the house next door.
Please, you honestly think you can use women and that's not going to effect your children?
Now something new - amazing! I have not posted my thoughts about 'friends with benefits' because I don't have any. Not yet anyway. I respect women, and I am engaged to a feminist. She has expressed a postive attude on the subject of friends with benefits, but like myself has no experience. We are as interested as anyone else here to read posts.
In the past I have posted sexual questions, and ended up being blamed for the content of the thread as prudes blew things out of perspective. This time place your blame on the writer of the article, Joseph Mathews.
Setting up barriers like you have laid out only comes across as cold and calculated.
I think you should stop worrying about becoming too close to someone.
Try being more honest with them instead of more distant.