Baron Von Murderpaws
Diamond Member
I'm going to assess that after I try and get her off of the charges. She needs help, not punishment. I truly believe she has mental issues and I want to see her get better. It brought tears to my eyes when they took her away.
If you have her admitted to a mental health facility, once they have her settled in and assigned the programs she needs to go through........YOU can also tell them you want both of you to go through a marriage counseling program.
This way, she gets the help she needs to get off the gambling, deal with her emotions, and learn how to deal with whats going on between you two. And you get to see her in class, and both of you get to air your feelings and emotions, and both of you can get the help you need to work it all out.
This would probably be the best option for you, since you want to stay together, and not get divorced.
Life is hard because we make it hard. These things shouldn't have to happen to you or her. But we are all fallible.
If you have a priest or preacher you admire, seek some advice from them. Or some religious counselors. Like I stated before, nobody wants to see you end up with a headstone because of this.
As a side note........
I've been a follower of psychology my whole life. I can say, from a psychological standpoint from an observer of human nature all my life.......she's probably like this because she doesn't know HOW to put her feelings and emotions into words.
These feelings and emotions build up over time and usually come out as anger and violence. She needs some help to learn how to verbally express whats going on inside her.
It ALWAYS helps to talk to somebody. But for MY opinion of this situation..........have her admitted to a mental health facility, and make sure you also tell them you want a marriage counseling class as well, so you both can work this out under controlled conditions.
Emotions bottled up are not something anybody wants to deal with. And it can come out in a variety of ways. Gambling and violence is hers. And you need to find out why she needs to gamble, since this is an addiciton, it is an escape route for her. But obviously it isn't working for her and its getting worse.
Look for help. Get her admitted. Do what NEEDS to be done, not what you WANT to be done. Both of you will have a much better chance of being happy in the end. AND having a nice life together.