For those of you who are married, what was the engagement ring process? There are those who say that an engagement right is something a man gives to a woman, and that therefore selection of the ring (and indeed payment for it) should be entirely the guy's responsibility. There are other who say that, as the woman will wear it, she should be involved in the choice of the design / stones / setting. My wife has a family heirloom so it doesn't really apply to us, but I just saw a commercial where a girl says "I'm sending my boyfriend to Jerrod (jeweler)" and it made me wonder whether it is now traditional for the woman to have as much or even more say in the final selection. What was your experience or, if not married, what would be your preference?