Disciplining Your Children

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    Hey you parents out there. What are ways you discipline your child/children, and what do you find to be most effective?

    Please state the ages too, in case other parents would want to use your "tips"
     
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    Swat with the double-bolt switch and assign an extra round of farming chores.

    Ah, the bad old days...:(
     
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    :kneeling: Lord, please help get us some hope that the parents are getting 'it'. We want to help the kids, but need parents help!
     
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    Is that some sort of "teachers prayer?" :lol:
     
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    Personally, I find that Cline & Fay's Parenting with Love & Logic can't be beat. I use their strategies daily with my kids.

    http://www.loveandlogic.com/articles.html - great stuff.
     
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    Basically, Cline and Fay teach a method of actions = consequences parenting, rather than focusing on punishment/reward. Teaching kids to have their own boundaries, rather than forcing the parents' boundaries on the child.

    I was talking to my neighbor tonight, and he was telling how my daughter seems older than 15, that she's so well-balanced and common sense. I think that Cline & Fay have a lot to do with that.
     
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    This article provides an interesting insight into "consensual living." I used to think it was stupid hippie bullshit, but it actually seems more of an embodiment of the "freedom without license" that functions at Summerhill, for instance. You might want to look into Alfie Kohn's work too.
     
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    I had plenty of common sense when I was fifteen, didn't drink, didn't have sex, never got in trouble plus I had fear of my mother. SHe didn't have to do anything just give me that look. I turned twenty one and it all went out the window!
    My son is only 16 months so I am still learning myself, he does know after three no's he is getting time out. He actually starting crying when you say the third no. I only really do that when he is playing with plug ins which he has figured out how to get the child safety things off so know there is duck tape on the ones he can reach. I try to stay postive and just redirect him in most other cases but I am still learning. I will have to read the love and logic.
     
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    10 and 6.......we are crystal clear back each other without exception and we follow through on any consequenses......

    my son lied to my wife....he lost everything in his room and had to buy it all back through chores....
     
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