Child Support is unfair

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    I am in no way defending the irresponisbility of men who lack the fortitude to take care of their own responsibility as an adult, but I firmly believe any system that awards someone with money ought to be tracked. I'm not sure about you guys but I meet far too many men with no representation regarding child support and the issues they face regarding money. How is it that the state can track EBT payments but not child support? I personally believe the system is unfair towards responsible men and are soft on irresponsible women....What say ye?
     
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    What do you mean track?
     
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    I believe if child support is in the best interest of the child and if the state wants the father (or mother) to pay, it should be in the form of a card like an EBT to check how the money is being spent. It makes no sense for fathers to cut a woman a check, only to have her do as she wish. I hear to many stories of men payingan arm and a leg yet, the woman is buying Channel gift bags while her child has a dirty shirt and a snotty nose.
     
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    I can understand the feeling, however whether she/he takes that specific check and spends it on nails or beer, is not the other parents business.

    Think of the money for child support as a reimbursement check, for monies the primary parent has already spent that month for the child.
     
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    The only unfair thing about child support the one who is paying it can't use it as a tax deduction I pay a thousand a month for one child and can't use it as a deduction
     
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    " In the United States, 10 states (Colorado, Delaware, Florida, Indiana, Louisiana, Missouri, Nebraska, Oklahoma, Oregon, and Washington) allow courts to demand an accounting on expenses and spending from custodial parents. Additionally, Alabama courts have authorized such accounting under certain specific circumstances."

    Child support - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    My personal opinion is that if the parent paying child support feels their support is being abused then they should be able to petition for an accounting. However keeping track of every cases payments and where each cent goes seems like a bit much.
     
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    What if she did not spend any on the child & blew all the money on crack?
     
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    Then you call CPS.
     
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    Here the thing, child support is largely based on the income of the non-custodial parent, not the exact costs to care for the child. So, depending on your income you could be sending not near enough to cover expenses, or you could be sending a lot more.
     
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    If you are sending a lot more than is used at that time to care for the child shouldn't that money be locked away into an account for the child's future needs or college instead of buying mom's new boyfriend a motorcycle?
     
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